Dw and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2. Ss16  likes me  , but he HATES dw. Dw's ex-boyfriend was molesting ss, and dw didn't know. When the truth came out, she did what any mother would have done. She broke up with the scumbag and pressed charges. Turns out the ex would tell ss that dw knew what was happening; matter of fact she gave permission for it (complete low-life!!). Ss hates dw with a passion. He claims that dw "knew" what was going on the whole time. He's called her a worthless mother, a waste of space, and a failure of a human being. 

I've seen dw beg ss to just hear her out, he refuses. Ss has seen a child psychologist, a psychiatrist, and a therapist to help him over come the trauma, he's over come the trauma, but he can't stand the sight of dw. 

Ss didn't let this define him through. In school, he's always on the honors list, he's captain of the soccer team, has great friends, has a job, and he wants to attend college to be a pharmacist.. He's told dw that he knows she doesn't want him to succeed, and he's working hard to prove her wrong. That he's not the failure, that the only failure is her. His anger is his driving force.

The only person ss will listen and talk to in the house is me, he ignores dw- doesn't talk to her at all. Dw is heart broken that her only child thinks so little of her. She's tried reasoning with him, telling him that she didn't know and if she did, she would have stopped it; ss will say that she did know, and that she's just lying to cover her own tracks. He's wished that dw one day goes through the same pain he went through, so she knows what it feels like. 

Dw is happy that ss is close to me, so he has support from me. I support dw as well, but I know dw is hurting when she sees how sweet ss is with me. I've talked to ss about showing dw basic respect, he says that he is showing basic respect, by not speaking to her because he has noting to say to her.  I feel bad for the both of them, and I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.