Is it possible that BM can be convinced to change?
DH called BM yesterday because SD hasn't been over since June 6. I asked him if he could bring her for supper on Sunday (father's day) I'm getting pizza and the kids and I have presents for DH. It's not our weekend to have her so that is why he called to see if it would be ok. BM proceeded to ask for large amounts of money for things we had already discussed and DH said he would not pay for (mp3, nintendo DSI, there was something else but I forget). He again said no, I give you child support to buy things SD needs and those things would be for birthdays/christmas. Anyway BM then says "We have a counselling appointment on Wednesday at 6pm and you have to come." DH said that sounded good and he would love to go. He then told me that he will not be going unless I go with him. I think it will end up with her leaving but I hope not. I hope we can all sit down and talk with the counsellor. I did ask DH what he will do if the counsellor says to come in without me and he said he will tell her that we are a team and either it's both of us or none. I know this may seem strange to some people and they would say he should just go without me but the mom likes to attack us separately, if she sees that we are a team and sit there together maybe she will finally get it through her fat head that we are together and she needs to accept that. It will be interesting. She likes to make up all sorts of things that we have done and it's much better if there are both of us there to answer to her. If I'm not there it will be all about attacking me and DH says he's done with listening to that. Oh, as an added bonus I am bringing her crazy ass emails where she bashes us and calls us names for nothing. She's such an idiot.