I'm trying not to be overly excited, but we had a really good weekend with SD19. She called Saturday to say that they were in our area and wanted to know if they could swing over. So over she and BF came. They wound up and went to the local fair with us that evening. She has a new job and has to buy some clothes so I gave her some money from my slush fund and % off coupons to help. She was extremely appreciative, DH then treated her and BF to the evening at the fair from his slush fund. She also is having serious car problems, so we offered her one of ours temporarily while she is putting her money together.

For the first time in years....I have felt good by what we did.

And to boot, SD says.....if I knew then what I know now, I would never have done that........

so I think SD is finally understanding a) we have done our part, b) that we aren't the evil monsters but that we were trying to teach her responsibility.

I hope it's the start of a better relationship.