Our lives are scheduled around BMs work schedule. She works shift work. 3 months on night shift/3 months on day shift, etc. When she works night shift, SD12 1/2 lives with us and BM gets her a couple of nights a week (but usually it turns out to just one so she can party.) The 3 months she is on day shift she is supposed to live with her mom, but we get her at 5:45 am and after work until 6 pm, plus 2 nights a week. I HATE IT!!! I wish my DH was like every other normal ex and had her every other weekend!

I took the skids back to bm last night b/c dh had to work and was unable to be in 2 places at once. So anyway bm called today to tell dh that all ss15 was be sh!ty to her all night and this am too. And she just can't deal with him anymore. This is not the first time and wanted to know if we would mind letting him live with us. UMMM NO DUH! He is fine when we have him. Sure it won't be all rosy ad happy ever after but I think he will be better here. We don't treat the kids like they are 2 and that is his main problem. He wants to be independent so bad he can't stand it.

Ss15 and I were putting some bags in the back of the expedition last night and my neighbor from across the street came over. Dh and him have been working on a car. SOOOO the neighbor is standing next to me and ss15 is on the other side and he starts to talk to ss15 about this car???? I asked him why he was talking to him since I'm the adult? He just kept talking to ss15. SS15 looked at me like what is going on? ss15 doesn't know about this car. I again asked why he was talking to a kid and not the adult which is me?

Yesterday, school was cancelled because of snow. SS13 was home alone all day while we were at work. It was to be their first day back after the 2 week Winter break. He sat in front of MTV all day, and even built a fire! Apparently he called SO and asked for permission, and that was A-OK with him.

Hey guys,
I have been stalking this site for about a year now and thought it high time i created an account!
I am currently finding things very,very tough with being a SM,and decided that after SD causing a huge 'hoo ha',over christmas,and carrying out yet 'another' spiteful act towards me,for no good reason(other than i so happen to breathe), i thought i needed to an outlet of somekind.This long standing issue of SK's refusing to accept me and assuming a mob like mentality has almost resulted in me divorcing DH,because he is so scared of confronting them.

Beyond the fact that I could blame the nesting thing, I'm typically a preparer. I want all my ducks in a row. We have everything we "need" for the baby...except it's all sitting in boxes and bags in a pile in our basement closet. Nothing is put together yet. I have 7 weeks until my due date.

I have been with my husband for three and a half years. His divorced with three children 9, 10 and 14 years old.

His youngest children are so sweet loving and caring the eldest one (daughter) is a nasty piece of work.

Hi everyone. I have been lurking around here for a little while. It is nice to know that there are some people in the same place as me in dealing with a spitefull BM. By the way I love that she is called BM because that in my eyes is a bowel movement and very fitting.

Well thankfully the holidays are over..I'm even excited about being back at work actually. Christmas was great as it always is... I love Christmas...but every single year SS 8 creates some sort of Drama. I thought we'd get off free this year as Christmas day came and went without a hitch... he went to his mothers on Boxing Day and then he came to our house for the next week... ah... it was the next week... and I'm officially disengaging. My DH is actually on my side. All this kid does is eat and watch tv.

Why does my SD9 hide in her closet?? Her dad and I have a very nice, quiet home. I know her BM and BF fight all the time...but there is no need for her to hide in her closet at our house.

I've spoken with her about this and she says that she likes to play her DS or listen to music in her closet... I told her NO she cannot sit in her closet, she can sit on her bed or go downstairs is she needs some time to herself....again I found her in the closet just sitting there listening to music...by the way this girl is super smart and very well spoken...