Come to the realization that I'm never going to like skid or idea of skid. For all of you out there who actually do, that's great that you are fortunate enough to feel that way. I wish I could, but I just can't find it in myself to.

Ok, major issues with SS 20 - found out this summer he was a herion addict he has been through rehab and other mental health programs since back in October he was diagnosed as being bi-bolar. I used to have a close relationship with SS20 until I realized he was using me for money to buy drugs. I do love him but ever time he is around me my husband and I get into a huge fight. I dont trust SS20 as far as I could throw him and may never trust him again.

First, it's just hilarious. The skids are 3 and 5 and there's no way in heck that they'll be cleaning the cage. Sure, they might "help" but BM will end up doing the work. Also, BM is a CLEAN FREAK and will probably have a heart attack every time the rats poop in their cage.

I know you've all heard this before, but you're about to hear it again. I NEED TO VENT!!!!

I have put up with drama from the other babies mama for almost a year now. I know that a lot of you have put up with it for far longer. But my BF finally stood up to her and told her to leave him alone unless it's kids related. Not that I'm not happy he did it. I'm actually quite proud of him. But at this moment this lady has gotten so under my skin with all of her manipulative BS, that I'm still pissed.

I wanted to get some thoughts on a couple things.

1. What age do you stop taking a bath with a child?

2. What age do you not sleep with child any longer?

3.what do you say to your SO when the 4 year old pees the bed and nothing is done?

He feels that if he punishes her for EVERYTHING(bc 80% of the time shes acting up)she wont have a good time and doesnt want her in punishment and crying the whole time she is visiting. and says her not being with us all the time makes things harder. I am not wanting an over night make over but my opinion is you have to start somewhere and what has been happening hasnt worked so I thought this parenting plan was goin to work. We sat down talked it out but it feels like all I can do is wait.

It's hard enough to deal with a blended family situation if you like your SO's kids but if you dislike them, is it hopeless to think you can have a relationship with your SO? I'm not even talking about living together, I am talking about just being together?

Keeping the part of your life that involves kids out of a relationship feels like half a relationship, but maybe that is the only way you can be with someone who actually has kids from a previous marriage or relationship?

No calls from the SpermClan.

No manipulation by SpermGrandMa.

No whinning by the SpermIdiot.

No pre visitation behavioral melt down by SS.

Ho! Ho! Ho! Hum. Yawwwwwnnnnnnn.

I waited nearly 17yrs to get out from under the Custody/Visitation/Support CO and to put the SpermClan behind me.

It is strange that I kind of miss the drama. But only for a second.

Merry RamaChrismaHannuQuanza!

Best Regards,

So DSS28 texted my a photograph of the Christmas tree he and his "soon to be fiancee" put up over the weekend. The accompanying script was "It's real cause that's how we roll." Let me give you some background here, DH and I have been together for 20 years and married for 17, for the first 5 we had real trees. I can give you a clue who did the needle cleaning. After the first two years together I can also give you a clue who decorated the damn thing all alone while everyone else pursued other activities. Putting away? You know. So ... I sent a text back saying how pretty the tree.

Fiance and I were discussing last night about how excited we are to have our baby. He said it's so different with me being pregnant. He said that the entire pregnancy with BM was filled with dread -- they both pretty much knew their relationship was crap and they both just stuck around to see if it'd get better. We talked about it being so nice that we will have complete "say" in our kid's life, where we don't have that with the skid's lives (obviously because they are BM's too).

Then he said the thing that broke my heart...