I was doing really good at "disengaging" -- I just realized we hadn't told SS20 that I was cooking Thanksgiving lunch! DH is working tomorrow afternoon, and I was planning to go to my Mom's for dinner..till I got the sad eyes from DH that the house wouldn't smell like thanksgiving. I decided to cook lunch for him tomorrow, then go to my mom's late.

I have to admit that finding this site was a blessing and a curse. Although I do appreciate that I now have a chance to vent to people who will listen and not criticize me for not loving my SS, it is also very difficult to read some posts because it makes me fear the future.

I'm having a particularly shit day today!!!! I'll give you a bit of background - when I met my partner he told me he had nothing to do with his ex wife apart from dealing with his son - otherwise he would never talk to her! She had an affair they had been apart 9 months!!

FDH is in the beginning stages of filing for modification of CS and parenting time. The atty has been waiting for the financial documentation to back-up what he (I) stated in the financial affidivt.

Today is my day off, but I got up at 7:30am and started scanning and emailing the documents to the atty. I've spent 4 hours on this today so far and I just called FDH to ask him to please find 3 items when he got home today. His reply...

:jawdrop: My husband ex wife it very crazy she never leaves him alone and he doesn’t want to be bother my her earthier she calls him all the time for stupid crap to tell happy birthday or farther day.

Well, DH and I moved 1000 miles away from his "lovely" sisters...one wouldn't even ever come to my house after we were married...just found out they are all going to SIL1 (head witch) BF's house for Thanksgiving...(note: first real BF in at least 10 years)

Let me tell you a little about my self I am 27years old I have been married for one year and we been together for four years I have a stepdaughter that’s 18 year old and a step son that 20years old I get along with my stepdaughter but my step son is horrible it has started about a year into dating my husband I just look at him and get annoyed he’s lied so much he’s stole from us he a very dirty person his room you cant even walk in it because its so dirty he just tells you want you want to here he’s lost all his job he can even hold a job down he doesn’t do anything we ask he wakes us up

Less than a week ago BM told DH in not uncertain terms that I was not allowed to be around skids alone because I "talked about her". Skids are out for T'giving break and decided last night that they didn't want to be with their step dad's mom all day. BM calls DH last night around 7p and tells him that the skids want to stay the night, which means that they'll be here ALL DAY with me. Was I ever consulted about it? No. Did I have things to do today? Yes. Is that out the window now? Yes. OK, well, I'll get over that. It's the almost constant whining that's beginning to get on my nerves.

wow, i cant even begin to explain how this happened. my 14 year old got sick and we took her to the hospital, guess who was working there??? yes! her biological mother. we were with the 10 year old also, she is her bio mother also. omg! this cant be happening. she hasnt seen or talked to them since, i dont even remember. and know shes like, oh these are my daughters! arent they beautiful! and talking and rubing them like if she actually had a relashionship with them. the 14 year old was like, i dont care about her, i dont even need to talk to her, so and so.

A low bow...I'm extremely and wonderfully surprised to see that there is a place we horrid stepmothers can actually show our feelings without being considered Evil Aliens Who Eat Children. I'm a new stepmother (I'm also a BM who successfully raised three children to adulthood - at least that's what the three insist). I'm so glad this site exists.