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Summer Visitation- what would you do?

2plus2's picture

Hi All
I know many of you may think I am crazy for saying this but here goes:
CO states BM has skids every other wkend, even over the summer.
last year for the 1st time she asked for more time so we agreed.
it ended up being about 1/2 weeks, but it left no free time for the skids here at home w/ friends,etc because BM did not want to drive them to their things here they had to cram it all into the time they were here and have less friend time.

The "break" with SD6 is almost upon us...

SteppingUp's picture

Long story short, FDH has raised SD6 since she was a baby. Her biodad saw her one weekend a month, but this past year he's turned over a new leaf and really wants to be more involved. He now takes her every other weekend. We still have her during the weekdays that we have her brother (my SS3). Biodad has asserted that he WANTS to have SD on the days of the week we have her (he pays BM child support yet she has us taking his kid 2 days week...).

Horrible time

Broken heart's picture

My BF has two children.I've never thought, i will have this horrible experience. Long story short. My BF ex-wife cheated on him to someone else, abandoned her children, she came back home&left home before they divorced. They divorced 5 yrs ago. 2yrs ago, i started my relationship with my BF. He has had a bad credit because his ex-wife didn't pay morgate, she got money from my BF and didn't pay until morgate called my BF to remind he was behind payment for 2 months. His ex-wife has still owed child support to my BF and never paid. He lost his job and house 2 yrs ago.

BM is getting close to falling off her rocker!!!!

gstaff92481's picture

This woman is a flippin nut job!!!!

I just wanted to post an example of what exactly were dealing with, opinions are greatly appreciated, lol!

So 3rd husband whom BM divorced last year is also filing for custody of their son who is 6. BM and 3rd hubby had a nasty breakup, got back together for a few months then totally split last summer.

BM has been totally vindictive to 3rd hubby. She filed an order of protection (OP) against him, and has been trying to get him thrown in jail ever since.

Would this be overstepping?

SASX's picture

Ok so the fskids both failed sections of the FCAT which they need to pass to graduate HS and get a Diploma. Florida Virtual Schools offers a free online test prep course to help kids. BM and BF think it would be 'unfair' to require the skids to take the course over the summer.

Not my kids, not my problem in this area isn't working for me. I see a future filled with these kids never leaving home as they wouldn't be able to read or add.

Skids update

SASX's picture

Grades are in: Both made A/B honor roll for the forth quarter.

Sounds good right? Then we got the low down from their guidance councelors. They both failed the FCAT. Have to pass to get a HS Diploma, if they don't pass they get a certificate of attendence instead of a HSD.

For those not in Florida the test grades out at levels 1 thru 5. Kids must have a minimum of a level 3 in all areas, reading, math, science and writing.

FSD got a level 1 in reading.
FSS got a level 2 (LOW 2) in math.

Cheerleader..........really..............

Sterling's picture

UGH! My SD just failed a couple of classes this last semester. My DH TOLD her if she failed any classes he would not let her continue with cheerleading for high school. Funny, he ends up letting her continue, even with her grades and on top of that he has to pay out almost $900 for her cheer. Plus, she is supposed to do cheer camp, workouts, etc this summer and she has not gone to any one of them. She didn't go to her cheer camp because she didn't have "a ride home" at 9 am. She didn't want to walk 10 min home. She missed all 5 days. So what does he do, NOTHING.

I NEVER thought I'd say this....

boogeymom's picture

...and I'm not going to let on at all because he'll milk it for all it's worth, but I feel SO bad for SS11 right now. He's needed a whole bunch of teeth pulled for, like, a good couple of years now, but of course, stupid BM didn't get it done for whatever reason (I'm guessing a combination of procrastination, laziness, and not having money EVER). So now that he'll be 12 in less than a month, and getting ready to start a brand new school next year since BM can't stop moving, she decides to have ALL of the teeth he needed pulled, pulled all at once.

Are we really all that different?

roseslady2's picture

I wonder pretty regularly if we're really all that different from BMs? I mean, there are things we're very different in: our view of the Skids, our view of our DH/their ex, and sometimes, our parenting styles. But, do biokids have showering issues? Do biokids have cleaning issues? do biokids have attitudes? The answer is yes. }:) The reason that BMs aren't complaining about it is that these are their children. Flesh and blood seems to have some weird way of getting you to overlook stuff.

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