Frustrated
My partner and I have been together almost 3 years. When we first met our now 13 year old was only 10 (I know simple math). I would spend time talking to him and hanging out with him. Reassuring him that I was always going to be there for him. It seems as the past 2 years have gone by he blames me for everything wrong in his life. Most recently in one of his rants he hold me that he hated me. He is very rude and disrespectful to his mom, which drives me crazy. I seem to have a problem due to the fact that I was raised knowing if " I was going to act a fool the belt had my name on it!" Don't get me wrong... I am not a fan of beating a child, however that one and only time that belt was used on me left an everlasting impression on me and my siblings. I'm just really frustrated and tired. At a bit of a loss.
Authoritarian parenting
Authoritarian parenting styles may help that... Schedules, strict rules, boundaries, and the promise that his behavior is the ONLY thing that will make the noose slacken. Keeps his hiney safe from a belt, at least.
Oh, and time out. kneeling on a linoleum/wood/tile floor holding a couple soup cans above his head at full arm extension for good measure. "You can come out when you've learned how to respect."
Then make him write a paragraph about it.
Did that (with parental approval) on kids that I was "nanny" to, always gave the parents back a changed kid.
And the paddle or belt. Don't
And the paddle or belt. Don't forget those crucial tools for making the connection between the child brain and consequences for inappropriate behavior. Light em up!!!! }:)
I set up parental controls
I set up parental controls for my sd and she is grounded again for lying. I told her in a firm voice lately when she yelled at me our house our rules.