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As I posted yesterday, DF had his uncle's funeral to attend and he made MANY attempts all weekend to get in touch with BM about switching Monday night for Tuesday night with the kids. She never responded to him.
So I just went to daycare to pick them up last night (without DF, who was out of town for the funeral). There was a HUGE part of me that wanted to NOT pick them up and see what would happen, but we both agreed that would probably hurt the kids more than teaching BM a lesson (skids would feel like no one 'wanted' them or something).
So last night we had "date night" so we spent a good part of the evening enjoying our wine and dinner.....later around 10:30 we go upstairs to continue the evening and his phone goes off twice....its SD14 calling to ask "why" he didn't call her back (mind you they talk everyday) and he starts to explain that he had to do something after work and blah blah she says she cannot go to sleep unless she tells him goodnight...needless to say the mood was gone....I made comment that she should be in the bed bc it's late and we had words and he gets up and sleeps downstairs
((sigh))
I am sooooo glad I found this site. I am the soon-to-be SM of one girl 9 yoa, and one boy 6 yoa and they constantly have something going on whether its softball, cheer, competitions, etc. I am 23 years of age and I do not have children of my own, never been married. I am a part-time student, and work full time. We share 50% custody of SD and SS and I resent them so much most of the time because I feel like my time away from school and work is always about them.
Just wondering how others would have handled this situation. For past 6 years have had little to no relationship with SS18. I created a Facebook a year ago SS18 wrote a message letting me know how he truly felt about me. Called me slut, cunt, bitch. Blamed me for "losing" his father. DH never confronted him about it. SS just stayed away. Six months later, saw him at a wedding in July I think he was drinking a little bit. When he saw DH and I, to my surpise, he came up to us and said "don't worry, I will come visit soon" and gave us both hugs and walked away :? .
I've been feeling pretty down lately at the way SD20 has been treating me. I figure that if people would tell their best and/or worst skid stories I'll feel better because hopefully mine aren't so bad, or the good ones will give me hope for the future. Anyone?
Okay so from a previous blog, I sent the BM a card with her BF's last name on it to address "the family" and she text DH to say "I am not changing my last name," completely out of the blue, or at least seemingly.
DH said "what the hell was that about? (TheOtherMom) what did you do now?" ... so I told him I sent her a Christmas card. He said "that's her way of saying thanks for the card I guess and why on earth are you causing me more grief????"
I am StepCoquette. I deleted my account in a stupid attempt to be positive about OneNighter (BM) and the future. Sometimes my own naiveté amuses me.
Long story shorter, OneNighter is bent on making our lives hell. OneNighter asked us to take SD and is now refusing to sign the paperwork saying she will see us in Court. This is seriously every week with this woman! So, we will see her in Court with all her emails and text messages about taking SD, when it's to start, etc. }:)
I am new to this site and am relieved to know I am not alone. but makes me think.....are we too hard on the situation? I am thinking no, because I spend more time feeling angry and depressed and I never used to be. I read about all the 4 year olds and 7 year olds. My SD is now 11, I met her when she just turned 8. Even neighbors tried to warn me that what this little girl wants, she gets. I never even said anything remotely negative either. I guess they just saw how she ran to daddy to fix everything. He'd run down the street to protect her from name calling when she is the bully.
Not that I am going to give either my BD or my SS a key yet, they are too young right now, but when the time comes I am very worried that BM will copy it and do who-knows-what. The kids are 8 and 9 and in a few years will need/want access to the house. I am already thinking ahead and planning on getting one of those deadbolts that have a key pad, giving them the code and changing it every week. I just don't trust BM.
Well, this wknd was the bday party the BM was having for her D.
I was obviously skeptic-it was the first combined event w/her/her family/friends-and then just my bf, me and my boys. He normally doesn't do the both parents bday. BUT his D had specifically invited us and the boys so IMO it would have been rude to not suck it up and go.
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