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Submitted by Stick on Sun, 06/07/2009 - 5:00pm

Got a chance to go and network with old working buddies and also see some really old good friends in the process. Had a few cocktails (I was driven to and from event) at the same time. And now, BM, who showed up 8 hours late yesterday to pick up SD wants to come in when she drops off SD to talk to me about some church / confirmation functions coming up! I've got the coffee brewing and I just ate some potatoes, but BM better watch what she says to me today. Defenses are DOWN!!! I can totally see me saying to SD - go in your room and finish your homework.

Disengagement Part 3

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 06/06/2009 - 6:56pm

BM just picked up SD for her "day/night". WHAT THE F#@%?????? By the way, it's 8:00pm here where we are... so nice time with her own daughter. When she called last I just wanted to tell her to forget coming over and so did SD. She wasted BOTH of our entire days. But I don't want to be accused of PAS... so what the heck do I do??

Disengagement

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 06/06/2009 - 5:35pm

There's a lot of talk on here about SM's disengagement from BioMom. Does anyone have any experience with a daughter disengaging from her own mother? BioMom is so useless and clueless to me. It's not just about me, it's about her own 15 year old daughter. When she says she'll call at 3pm.. and she doesn't call until 4pm. When she says she'll be over to pick her up for the night after helping her sister put away things from a garage sale - that she was at all day today - the day she is supposed to be with her own daughter... and still has not shown up at 6:39pm.

Sigh...

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 06/06/2009 - 1:20pm

It's a beautiful Saturday afternoon here. Sunny and 78 degrees. I took SD to her SAT exam this morning and picked her up and then BM was supposed to pick her up this afternoon and take her for overnight. She had her last night but couldn't keep her all weekend because SD was afraid that her own mother wouldn't be on time to get her to her SAT. Which I completely understand and agree with. BM is late going everywhere and never has a good reason for it.

OT - I'm addicted

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Submitted by Stick on Wed, 06/03/2009 - 8:34pm

to this site! I just finished a 6 month long job and am now home, waiting for the next project. It's amazing how cathartic it is to read everyone's blogs - whether I can commiserate or just say a prayer for someone or just laugh! Even when it's quiet (or as quiet as can be here) I'm online all the time! Does anyone else surf here all day on and off?? Please tell me I'm not cray-zeeeeee!

On the subject of child support

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Submitted by Stick on Wed, 06/03/2009 - 3:49pm

Can anyone tell me what the rule in New York is? I read some of your stories and I just cannot believe what I am seeing! We have SD living with us, but are going to ask BM for child support since she doesn't pay anything right now at all. SD has been living with us for a year. How does it work? IF BF makes more than BM, is her amount decreased? Or is it decreased because of my income? And what does it cover?

Do any of you BioMom's out there

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Submitted by Stick on Mon, 06/01/2009 - 7:06pm

Struggle with your teenage daughters? My SD adores her father and has a great relationship with me. She confides in me, and pretty much trusts me with some pretty big secrets. We've had 3 counselors confirm this for us, independently. That, and SD tells me things that I know she does not tell her dad, or BioMom. Unfortunately, SD has been so hurt by BioMom that she feels it is better to dislike BioMom and that way she doesn't get hurt. Whenever BioMom calls, SD is short in answers. When they go on any visitation, SD treats her mom horribly.

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