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Evil stepmonster's picture

I'm going to wait until my last child is 18 before I even think of dating again,I will not ask anyone to accept that I have kids because I will not put up with other peoples kids anymore!
After ex moved out I began spending alot of time with my old friends, and reconnected with one I've known all my life. Boots and I seemed to pick up where we left off from right after high school. It was nice spending time with him and laughing. He has a teenage son and it wasn't horrible being around him. Infact I liked him very much. I thought he liked me, until Boots and I friendship turned more towards the romantic side. The kid was still nice, but I noticed every time I was around he would begin to bring up his mother and posting pictures of her. (His mother passed away some time ago. I knew her too from 6th grade up)
Did not matter what was going on or how much fun we were having all of a sudden he would get sad and then angry, and here we go with pictures left and right every five minutes. I feel for the kid, I do. I've had a relative pass as well, but he seems to be ok with everything until his dad shows any type of affection to me.
Maybe I'm just a cold hearted bitch, but I don't feel talking about her every single time I'm over there. I've began to distance myself from Boots now. I'm pretty sure he can sense it and knows why. He's really said nothing about it so I figure I shouldn't either. This is why I've given up on dating for at least 8 more years.

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Evil stepmonster's picture

He'll never do that, Sad it's just been him and the kid for a while now, that's why I'm bowing out.

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

You can wait until your child turns 18 but its rare to find a man without kids once you reach our age so what good does that do you.

Its really really really hard out there in the dating world. The good ones get taken early because well, they are good. What's left is men with children and ex wives. And Men don't go looking for a woman with children. I have four. I know if it doesn't work out with me and SO no one will be asking me out but weirdos. This is no joke but some asshole asked me to be a sister wife the other day. Facebook messaged me. WOuld I like to move in with him and his wife into their trailer and sleep with him and bring my nice paying job to support his family as a sister wife? That my friend is what is out there. It makes me want to go all Hamlet. "get thee to a nunnery."

Evil stepmonster's picture

OHG that made me giggle a little bit, thank you. Like I told my Mormon ExH I'm not a sister, I'm not # 2 or 3 I'm #1 only if you can't give me that then move around.

Sports Fan's picture

The dating world is tough like NoWire said. Maybe give Boots at least one chance to talk to his son about your relationship. With a widow situation, you at least don't have to deal with a BM constantly causing trouble.

I can understand bowing out as well. I don't think I would ever do it again if DH and I broke up.

Evil stepmonster's picture

I think what upsets me the most is they were not together when she passed. They had been split for a while, she even went on to have two other kids with someone else, but when the kid gets upset, Boots acts like they were together and that she passed last week. Very dramatic scene indeed. Almost as if the kid wants me to know that no matter what, I will play second fiddle to a ghost, and I'm just to old for that shit.