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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 04/11/2012 - 2:03pm

My niece has not turned out to be the most responsible adult/parent. She is 21 and is pregnant with child No. 3, doesn't work, her husband is employed off and on, second child has severe medical problems my niece refuses to address and the child is understimulated to the point she seems mentally handicapped. When someone mentions the fact that maybe my niece should cut down on the childbearing and focus on the ones she already has, she just shrugs and says she can't make any promises. I think you can see where I am going with this.

Teased DH last night about his/SD19's codependency

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Thu, 04/05/2012 - 11:59am

I don't think he got it, but I got a chuckle out of it.

SD19 can't do anything by herself. I'm amazed she remembers to breathe most days.

Last night DH is getting onto the laptop looking up SD19's bank account. Even though SD19 lived an hour away with BM, she decided to come visit DH one weekend when she was 16 and get him to open her a checking/debit account, to which he signed on as joint. I didn't agree, but I wasn't consulted, so... (It makes it convenient for Dh to transfer money, which I have to assume was SD19's intention all along).

Oh no! DH is trotting out his "non-parenting" parenting style on our two BDs

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Tue, 04/03/2012 - 3:20pm

Save me now! BD8 has been "sneaking" extra food onto her account at school. It's not too hard to figure out, given her account balance depletes much more rapidly than BD5's AND the school will give us a detailed accounting of how the money was spent.

Well, BD8 was already warned about this once and told she was NOT to get ANY extras unless one of her two parents told her that day that she could. Apparently (according to BD8) her dad tells her she can get extras when I have scolded her for some reason. :jawdrop:

Eww, I need to scrub my brain now

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Thu, 03/29/2012 - 10:01am

I don't know about the rest of you, but I never talk to my parents about my sex life or theirs. This is just beyond weird (and presumptuous) to me.

SD19 texted Dh yesterday wishing him happy birthday. Then she said: "I know you gave up SEX for lent, but is there an exception for birthday SEX?"

WTH?! First of all, SD19 shouldn't know "anything" about our sex life. Second of all, how DARE she? Third of all, DH did NOT give up sex for lent, so where the hell is this coming from?

I didn't invite SD19, does that make me a bad person?

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 3:50pm

I threw a birthday party for DH last weekend at our home. Our two Bds were there of course, as well as my family (DH's lives hours away and are in poor health) and DH's friends. But I did not even once think of inviting SD19. At some point I thought DH might suggest it, but he didn't. Does it make me a bad person not to include her in her father's birthday celebration? We had it at our house and she is not welcome there, so...

Really interesting, but not surprising

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Thu, 03/22/2012 - 8:23am

Just saw a study out relating narcissistic personalities with people who have a lot of friends on Facebook. This is not surprising, as SD19 is a classic narcissist AND she has nearly 1900 "friends" on Facebook:

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/many-facebook-friends-study-links-...

Just thought I'd share. I know many of you can identify.

I find myself wishing SD19 would get a boyfriend and get her hooks out of daddy

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 03/19/2012 - 10:21pm

Does anybody think that might help the problem a bit? I swear, she is so up daddy's backside, and she doesn't even live anywhere near us! They text multiple times every day, she calls him randomly and she's always asking him for favors/money. Maybe a boyfriend would give her something else to focus on long enough to relax this dependency on daddy?

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