My DH is finally seeing the result of his inaction with SD18. She will be 19 this year, has no plans to work, go to college, or otherwise provide for herself. She is intolerable to be around, and doesn't want a relationship with DH, just money. She only calls him when she wants something. It is starting to sink in, and he is questioning his parenting of her all these years. I'd like to say part of me is happy, but its so damned sad.