Hello,

So.... I have a stepchild my MIL has helped raise from the moment she was born, when I came into the child's life, I was constantly told I wasn't her mom by my MIL.. 

fast forward 8 years later. We now have a 4 year old (she's 12) I have found out she's touched my son, inappropriately, as well as forced him to make out with her. My MIL quickly placed blame on our household. Shits a whole show.

I am in my mid30's and have been in a relationship with my partner over a year. He has 2 young kids  (3 & 5) and even though they are lovely kids for like two minutes I find it quite overwhelming and draining when they are dropped off over the weekends. My SKs throw tuntrums over everything , cry with no tears in theirs eyes , complain about the food and make yucky noises over it , are so clingy to their dad , and it's just a lot .