I am so glad I found this site. I was about to blow. I didnt know if I was in the roght or wrong for feeling the way I do. It is nice to know I can talk to someone or i should say so many people out there that can relate on some levels. Heck just being a step parent is a hard enough level. Thank you to those of you who have responded to me and I now know I need to put my foot down!!!I will make it change. One way or another!!!!

H works the 3rd shift, I work the 1st so we wont need daycare. To make a long story short back in July... I had a big blow out with BM. I told H i wanted nothing to do with her nor will I have anything to do with her, dont involve me with nothing and i haven't in the past 6 months. BM calls my house knowing H is at work no lie 16 times in a matter of 10 minutes... Not sure what made her think i would answer at all if i didn't answer the first time.

I am a bio mom of a little girl who is living with her father and a step mom to a 13 yr old teenage boy. I am married to a man who refused to see the issues and constantly tells me I take everything wrong when it comes to his son. Wow where to start. I love bith kids the same. My step son has no respect for me at all. He talks to me like I am dirt and does not listen to anything I say. I ask him to clean his room and he pops something off to me. I ask him to do his homework and he pops off to me.

For the last four years, DH has had the kids EOW and for three hours on Tuesday. Because of the limited time he has with them, we try to find fun activities we can afford to do. Both of us feel these kids need extracurricular activities to #1 take their mind off of BM's perpetually horrible attitude towards DH and myself, and #2 to allow them to grow by networking with other kids. So, of course, the kids would go back to their mom and tell her about all the fun they were having over here. They were met with anger, hostility and guilt.

I need to talk to any of you who are in a week on week off situation with your children and you ex, we have been on a good schedule for 2 1/2 years and all of the sudden in October my ex files a motion in court to modify parenting time, to one week on and one week off, what a slap in the face he didn't even talk to me but he talked to the kids HELLO!

I need some advice

DH and I were talking last night, and he was upset that my mom doesn't want to babysit this weekend if SD7 is at home. I said I know it's not good, but he has to try to understand that when you've been treated badly by someone (SD) for so long, it's bound to happen that you don't want to be around that person. It wasn't as bad, but SD7 did the same things to my mom as she did to me...not listening, ignoring, every time my mom even looks at my daughter SD has to get right in there and take the attention away, stuff like that.

I have been married 30 years and raised two SD's (one now 37 and 39). They are truly extremely amazing women and very successful and independent. I have a son 28 and a handicapped daughter 22 who are my husband's and mine biologically. I have had the typical nightmare problems raising them with no support from their father and it caused havoc and horror in my relationship with him and them. Their mother was not and is still not in the picture however, there are what I believe to be major abandonment issues with the girls especially the oldest. I got them when they were 5 and 7.

I mean, we all know how they were created, but do you ever wonder what the circumstances were? I know it's irrelevant and not healthy, but my mind wanders sometimes.

1) were they married
2) drunk
3) overwhelmed by passion he didn't pull out/she didn't get off
4) they thought a kid would bring them closer
5) she didn't let him pull out/vice versa
6) contraception broke

we have 50/50 and the current schedule is that we have ss every mon, and tues, and every other fri, sat, sun....so it rotates we have him 2 days and then for 5, and so on.

bm finally got a job (not to better herself, or to be stable for ss, but because her bf threatened to leave her) anyways, she has to work now so she just cant take having him for 5 straight days. and she told dh that she thinks they will need to change the schedule soon.

I am writing this because I am so conflicted inside! I am a teacher, I am a mother, I am a step-mother. MY 11SS has never done what is required of him in school and it has always been me who has followed up and made him follow thru on getting things done since he was in Kindergarten. Now, the kid is in 6th grade been suspended from 3 different schools (which I feel bad for him having to change schools so often due to BM & DH custody battle) however, the kid is beyond smart! he has tested above average on all those state tests etc. He is almost too smart, but he is extremely LAZY!!!