K so DH emailed BM regarding the boys playing Baseball and letting her know the amount. and also letting her know what since she committed Medi-cal Fraud the boys no longer were covered to see the therpist with medi-cal and that we are getting them new medical coverage and now it is an out of pocket expense that we will be sending her a bill for half of each or these Items.

I don't want him to live with us anymore, he is a spoiled little brat, and more than anything he is sooo lazy!!! I know 12 year olds are not pleasant, but this kid takes the cake, mouthy, disrespectful, lazy, dirty, hateful, annoying, jelous, and spiteful kid I have ever met!! I just need a break!!! It doesn't help that BM tells him he doesn't have to listen to me and she tells him lies about DH all the time.

Hi,

Okay, so I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 38. We have been together for two and half years and are planning on getting married in October. I do not have any children, he has two. He has a boy who is 7 and a girl who is 16. Her and her BM had been arguing alot so she decided she wanted to come live with us. It has been 2 months now. Now I know why her and her BM were arguing. She is hateful and rude. Typical 16 year old girl you may say?? beyond it!! She knows how to play me and her dad against each other and how to play her BM and dad against each other.

This weekend is a long weekend for sd's school because of the holiday today and voting day on Tuesday. I still have to work my 10 hr a day job (7am-5pm) though and he works a 4 hr part time job in the evening (6-11pm). Sd went to visit her mom on Saturday afternoon usually she comes home Sunday afternoon. So I asked H if sd's mother was going to keep her until Tuesday instead of Sunday afternoon. The mother does not work and sd has no school and we have to work. He said I already asked her and she said sd couldn't she had things to do...

It's nothing drastic like what some women go through on here. But every time I start to write it I just get PISSED that BM is so self centered and so completely oblivious to only her and her family's needs, and will alienate and hurt SD.

It's a systematic guilt trip on SD from BM, and all members of her family.

**I found this article at Mail Online...And it really kind of irked me off. The douchefairy (pardon my name calling) is blaming US for all skids issues... Wanted to get all you wonderful steps opinion on this article. Maybe we should let her know exactly what its like on OUR end**

It's heresy to say it, but having a step-parent can wreck a child's life
By Frances Childs
Last updated at 11:52 AM on 30th May 2008

I've come to two conclusions: I'm not crazy, and I'm not a bad stepmom. It is one thing to take on other children and care for them but this child has serious issues and I am TIRED. I have two skids (SD who is 12, and SS who is almost 10) who live with us 50/50 on an Every Other Day schedule. DH and I also have a BD2 together. The problem is....I have a serious problem developing any relationship with my SS. At times, I find myself not liking the kid at all. I, however, have a great relationship with SD.

ok I NEED HELP. My husbands little girl lives with us. He has had physical custody of her since she was 1 1/2years, she is now 4 1/2. My husband and I have been together since his girl was 2 1/2 so I have been a BIG part in her life for most of her life. Her mother sees her every other weekend, holidays, and summer. My question is what are MY rights of helping bring her up. Is it my place to answer qustions like why she doesnt see her mommy that much. ( oh I am with her most of the day so we are very close) Whose belly was I in.

I need to learn what are normal behaviors for a 6yr... I have never had to raise or live with a 6yr old child.

Do they noramally ask so many questions?
where are we going? what are we doing? why do i have to bathe? are we going to the supermarket? is this for me? is this mine? can i have that? what is that?

Do they prefer snacks and picking over a meal?
My SD6 can take up to two hrs to eat mac and cheese with hotdogs. But will eat a popsicle, pudding cup, yogurt, dry cereal, marshmellows, cookies all with in 15-20min intervals if I let her.