I have been thinking about this and wondering. I have been a stepmom for 6 years now and at first my twin SS were 7 and now they are 13. I originally thought they would just like me and everthing would be great. I used to hug them and show them affection. Over the years things have changed, we moved into a bigger house with lots of more chores and responsibilities and we moved to the town where they went to school so we could see them more and I had 2 more children, 3 and 1 y/o. Life has just been very busy.

Puncture wound. Puncture wound. Puncture wound. Just the words themselves are unpleasant and make me all squirmy. I had a health teacher in high school, Pred Poffman, who spent what seemed like an entire week talking about puncture wounds in uneccesary detail. One of my classmates fainted during class from revulsion. I'm not kidding. All I remember from those lectures were his tone when he said "puncture wound" and my poor classmate fainting.

I am new to this but I need some HELP! I have 3 SS and my DH X just pawns them off on us whenever fits her schedule. I love having them here, actually it is hard because I have my own bioson who is 8 and there is a lot of fighting. For the most part they are good kids but I have no notice about if they will be here for dinner or overnight. We have a set schedule but she has a new boyfriend and if she desides to spend the night there she will just call around 6 pm and ask if they can stay. My DH just lets her do it and he never stands up to her.

Do you ever worry that your spouse is repeating some of the same mistakes he made during his first marriage?

I've heard lots of stories over the last 5 years about his first marriage, from him, his friends, his family, etc. And of course the stories always had a spin favourable to him and negative to his X. The family, who didn't live under the same roof... has been fed his spin over the years also.

There are times, I believe he played more of a role in the dimise of his marriage than he would like people, including his family to believe.

Well, time continues to march on and the days pass by, each with more intense heat than the one before. Or at least, so it seems to me. It's been well over a month, and I haven't heard a peep from SS....it still bothers me. And SD's comment that her Dad is MIA--don't you think that something would click in her head--after this time--there's a reason your Dad hasn't spoken to you? Duh??? But then, biomom, has told SD she hasn't done anything to apologize for.

I think this site has saved my sanity. I feel so much better knowing that there are people who really understand what I'm going through. The advice & encouragement has lifted my spirits emmensely. Thanks to all.

believe that the hard earned money your DH pays to his X for child support is being used to actually support the child? His X has argued that she needs money for child care, but then find out she stopped using any during the school year late last year. Then her attorney says that she needs an incredible amount per week to pay for a High School kid in the summer - are you kidding. Why is that the X thinks that she is still entitled all of DHs money after the divorce...

As much as I hate to admit it, I'm slightly jealous of the good relationship my husband and his ex- have. I know it's better for all three of us and for my SS, but I guess I want some justification for not thinking too highly of her. She's a good mother to our little boy but there are things about her I just can't stand and I feel awful for it.

Hi, all!

Hope everyone's doing well. Nice to see a few new users since I last logged in. This is a GREAT site and I've found it so helpful to vent to others who understand what this is like. I hope all of you new girls enjoy it as much as I do.

Just recently I bumped into an older woman walking home from the local grocery store stuggling with several bags. I had a pull behind cart & offered to help her home with them. I've lived in this area for 12 years now, but the residential areas are so snakey that I steer clear of them if I can. I asked her where we were going, & when she told me I couldn't quite place it. Well it was just 2 blocks from my house. So I was left shaking my head & laughing at myself.