Hope everybody's doing well and keeping cool in this crazy July-August heat and humidity!

I've gotten legal advice to file for sole custoday because the level of co-operation necessary for joint custody/joint decision making is just not there and his actions clearly depict that..

The "Mother of the Year" has had 3 husbands, 4 kids, of which she has custody of none. She recently left husband #3 to be with boyfriend #4. She has cheated on every husband so far.
She's moved 12 times in the past 9 years. She has lived in 4 different states during that time. On average, she sees her oldest 2 children twice a year. I can't speak for the younger 2 since they don't live with us, but I imagine it's about the same. It's a pretty sad track record that speaks for itself.

Has anyone been in this situation? My daughter looks forward to seeing her brother on the scheduled visitation days and gets really upset when plan is changed. She is 5 yrs old and knows the days he comes to visits us. Last week when that happened she said " I hate him, I don't want to play with him anymore!" Stepson's mother kept him on Wednesday because his cousins were in town for the week. My husband agreed to it. I ended up yelling at my husband and told him no more switching or if biomom decides to switch she needs to replace the day(s) we lost.

My Sd (14) has turn into someone I do not know. I have found blogs that she has written that prove she is manipulating both families. She has begged us to move back here and then after we see the attorney she said, "I changed my mind." We are being played for a foul. At her last visit she asked to stay at her grandma's house. She kissed us goodbye and went. Then a 180 happened. She called her dad and said she never wants to come back. No reason just! The grandmother encouraged this.

The kids just went back to their mother's house today. Of course, she planned their vacation starting today so for the entire visit all the kids talked about was their upcomming vacation. The reality of it all is that we don't have the money they have and we can not take vacations every year nor but the kids every little thing they want. Part of the buying everything is that we do not want to "spoil" any of the kids or be disney parnets. I can't take it any longer. The X, how my husband walks around after the kids leave.

BF told my son Thursday morning when his Dad took him "to call your mother & let her know what's going on".

I also left a voice message on X's cell phone..early Thursday Evening for x to call me. It's Saturday...I've heard nothing from either one of them.

I'll call his family...and see if they know what's going on..

Bio-Mom's planned visit for Sunday has been cancelled. She's gone to South Carolina with her new boyfriend because her Mom (who she was living with in Alabama) "started some things." She did not mention coming back to Alabama any time soon. The kids are not happy campers. I hate how she jerks them around like this. All that drama about seeing the kids more and being more involved in their school activities...what BS! *Sigh* I'm kind of relieved, to be honest. I hope she never comes back.

LAST NIGHT I WAS CLEANING OFF THE TOP OF THE FRIDGE AND I FOUND A POEM THAT MY HUSBAND WROTE. IT WAS SOOOOOOOO SWEET. IT WAS A LOVE POEM ABOUT OUR MARRIAGE. WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER NEARLY FIVE YEARS AGO HE HAD WRITTEN ME A FEW BUT ITS BEEN YEARS. I WASN'T SURE IF I SHOULD TELL HIM I FOUND IT OR WHAT. BUT I COULDN'T HOLD IT IN. HE TOLD ME HE HAD WRITTEN IT THE NIGHT BEFORE WHILE I WAS AT THE BEAUTY SALON, AND THAT HE WANTED TO GIVE IT TO ME BUT HE WAS EMBARRASED. I FELT LIKE A LITTLE KID.

It's Friday at last! Yayy!
SD has orientation at her new school today. She's so scared about making new friends. I know she'll be fine.
Our old house has sold! The closing is today. That will be a huge burden lifted.
Bio-Mom is supposed to call or email to let us know her visitation intentions today. She says she wants to see the kids every Sunday afternoon, which is all her work schedule can accommodate. She's never been very good at sticking to scheduled visitation, so we'll see how long this lasts. TTFN!
~OtherMother