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Teenage Stepchildren

suthrnrose's picture

You should have a forum about having teenage stepchildren because it has even more challenges due to the fact that they already have other issues!

mrinternational33's picture

Hi I’m a 32 year single male with no kids of my own. I have a Gf that I really love to death. She is a single mom of 3 kids. 1st child is a teenager in her last year in high school, 2nd is a young male that is 9 and the last child is 7 which is a girl. The mother is really amazing as well as the teenager with no problems in the beginning, however the 2 youngest seems to be the problem. Now let me said that I’m really trying not to sound selfish but just need some input on some things. 1st -my Gf seems to be really soft on her kids even the teenage which she is not a problem at all she is going to a division 1 college this fall for sports but the mother seems to favorite her out of the 3 which I understand she was the 1st for 10 years before the 2nd was born. My GF kids are by 3 different relationships that went south at some point. 2 out of the fathers are active, the middle child doesn’t know his father at all cause he left before he was born. The problem is that I seem to be losing love for her due to the two youngest. Like spending time with her. I try to be reasonable and understanding that she has 3 kids and she is doing all on her own. But I seem to get the last helping hand but I seem to be there when she needs me to be, not that she ask me for anything but I always offer and do for her and the kids. In the beginning it was fine and fun and now it like a battle to for me to be around her and her kids. The youngest is the worst at the age of 7 it would seem that she would be more settle and doing her own thing. She is always fighting all of us hitting, screaming, and just acting out all the time and will not sleep in her own bed always waking up really early and not going to sleep when told. The father comes and gets her every other weekend but I feel he is getting to enjoy his life with his GF while I have to suffer. The boy is not as bad just needs to focus more in school but all around a descend kid. The mother doesn’t whipped them but also is stricted on them but is seems not to work. Other issues is that the mother makes good money and in fact more than me almost by double with child support from 2 of the baby daddies, it was in the beginning we would take turn on paying for food or whatever we choose to do when we went out. Now it seems like every time we go somewhere I end up paying which I don’t mind it but at times I feel like I want to be spoiled abit. But when she gets paid she hurries and buys the oldest daughter whatever she needs/wants and not thinking about her bills and what needs to be done. Now she is getting jealous checking my phone and wanting me to be at her house more which I love spending time but when I come over all it is fighting, screaming with the kids trying to get them to mind. At this point I want to end it but feel like crap out because I can handle all that.