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Submitted by Wornoutmum on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 7:04am

I have 3 BS, my partner & I have been together for 4yrs, but he & my eldest BS9 are always fighting, anything my bs does is wrong (according to partner) to make things worse I organized for SD9 to live with us full time(SD BM didn't want her) & everything is worse! She always gets my BS into trouble for no reason, I can't connect with her & dread the oncoming years! I love my partner but it gets all to much! Will the fighting ever end?????

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ctnmom's picture

Submitted by ctnmom on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 7:27am

You need to think about your son in this situation, what is this doing to his self esteem? Seriously, we only get them for 18 years, how do you want him to remember his childhood? You have some tough decisions to make. Sad

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Submitted by B22S22 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 7:39am

I agree -- I went thru this when DH and I first got married, and it took a while to correct it. His kids got away with everything, would even do the very same thing my son had just gotten in trouble for and not a word would be said. It caused HORRIBLE situations, I was angry, my kids were angry, my DH was angry because we were.

Not that I suggest it (and I honestly didn't suggest it to my kids, they conspired on their own), but one time when it happened, my kids calmly pointed it out to my DH, and told him they had ZERO respect for someone who would be so obvious about favoritism to his own kids, and for the whole next week (his kids are only with us on the weekends) would not have anything to do with him.

This cut to his core. Needless to say, "out of the mouths of babes" was able to change things around.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 7:59am

I teach my children to stand up for what's right. I don't play the "go along to get along" game. And I'm pretty sure they didn't just come up with this on their own, these are things I had said to my DH for a while. Gotta wonder if there were little ears listening (well, not really so little).