'most of us are on our 2nd marriage. Or married a man who has children'

er yes, this is called Steptalk - Where STEPPARENTS come to vent. Might be a clue. My DH is completely and utterly the opposite of my ex. IN.EVERY.WAY.

He loves me the mostest. I am always his #1 priority. He takes excellent care of me. He has taken on my kids (now all adults) and loves them like his own. He is generous to a fault but will not put up with bullcrap. He is like me, the oldest in his family (he has 2 siblings, I have 3).

My first husband walked out on me after a major emotional breakdown after his mother passed away (his father had died 8 yrs previously). He was on only child and overindulged until he was 16 and his parents gave him the choice to return to Australia with them or leave school and make it on his own in New Zealand. He chose to remain behind. I mean who gives a 16yr old that choice? He was often selfish and demanding. I think he had emotionally distant parents.

My husband is the most optimistic person I know! He also has the biggest heart. He's always trying to help others.

He's my first and only husband, so I can't compare him to anyone else.

I love my husbands smile and his wonderful sense of humor.
My ex was a miserable man and living with his was like walking on egg shells. You never knew what would set him off and how bad he would rage.
My current husband and I are also friends.
We are total opposites but it works. We balance each other.
He loves to cook, I hate to cook.
I love to clean, he hates to clean.
I am good with money management.
He is really bad with managing finances.
And so on.
In addition from time to time he will be thoughtful and surprise me with flowers or a cake from my favorite bakery which is no where near where we live.
It's the little things in life.

My husband treats me exceedingly well. He definitely needs to be a better parent, but he’s an amazing husband. And he is truly my best friend. We’ve been friends for decades, as I’m known him since I was 14 years old.

He is funny and thoughtful and really freaking hot. He is a wonderful provider and loves to travel as much as I do. My ex-husband did not enjoy traveling and couldn’t stand going out to a restaurant.

I have a much more diverse and interesting life with my husband than I did with my ex.

First thing that pops in my head. Is S-E-X...its true. I had a terrible sex life with my first husband. I mean AWFUL!! But we have a wonderful life. He's very funny, always makes me laugh, a good provider, he treats my bios very well. He doesn't drink (first husband is/was an alcoholic). He likes to travel so we're always going somewhere.

I've been reading these comments and really wracking my brains to think about anything I love about my DH- he's fast asleep and snoring next to me now on the sofa...

He is optimistic. He can get things done.

He loves me unconditionally and I know I am a priority.

It's hilarious that you bring this up because I just ran across an email that I wrote in 2012 bitching about SO to my best friend. I was complaining that he would just let me do all the housework and not bother to pitch in. Boy, has that changed! I don't even really know how it happened except when I went back to school, he had to become responsible for more and just did it. I guess I disengaged from housework!

He's loyal. He always wants to hang out with me. He takes care of me whether it's food or meds or comforting me. He brings me surprise sushi. He's not a Disney dad. We compliment each other pretty well, too. I am a pretty anxious person and just being around him makes me feel better.

I hadn't dated for years...waited for my youngest of 3 to go to college so I was pretty much self-sufficient. I didn't need a man to support me financially. I was looking for fun. My SO came along and gave me what I did need - humor, fun, love, someone to spoil me! He's everything to me. We get along so well - no real serious fights in 3 years; we've had disagreements but nothing too serious where we're not talking to each other, etc. He asks me everyday if I need anything and what can he do for me. Oh plus - HE RUBS MY FEET....love that!

He is the man of my dreams. The person I fanaticized about. I knew that good men and real love existed, it is why we have love songs, and romance movies.

He always thinks I am the hottest woman in the room. Example: we were recently at a sports bar, the inbred sitting next to my husband said loud enough so that everyone near us could hear including his wife … the food isn’t bad and it doesn’t hurt to look at the eye candy. My husband turned to him and said I don’t need to look at the eye candy, I brought mine.

He is consistent, a man of his word, a good husband and father ..which provides great security and happiness.

All the step drama is worth it.

Great post. Thank you for reminding me to be thankful.

My DH’s BEST quality is his selflessness. He will literally give someone the shirt off of his back, the last $5 in his wallet. He just does not blink an eye, or give any hesitation when it comes to someone other than himself in need.

Because of this, it took him a long, long time to let go of doing for BM, allowing her to walk all over him.

My ex, my first husband is a selfish little twat. He seriously lacks ALL self awareness and cannot see past his own pettiness. He’s a douchebag of epic proportions.

DH is my first and prayerfully will be my only husband.

DH is a good person. He doesn't pass judgement on people and he is a man's man. He truly is my Gladiator Man. He is the calm in a storm. While I believe in having my independence, DH is a great provider. He loves me no matter the circumstance. I think his best quality is he knows me and he gets me. I can talk to him about anything.

I know it sounds cliche, but he really is my best friend. I think if we were to divorce, I don't know that I would find another DH like him.

My 2nd, his 1st.

He is kind, generous, selfless... he doesn't hesitate to offer some help when someone hints at needing it.
He makes me feel safe, and will defend his child, my kids and myself to the death... he goes out of his way to bring a smile to any of our faces when any of us are having a bad time.
He makes me laugh.
He cries at sappy movies.
He throws me over his shoulder and spanks my butt when I'm teasing him, tickling me until I nearly pee.
He's a hard worker, and never complains about it.
He always (generally) puts me first... first in the house, first through the door, hands me a smoke before taking one, serves up my plate before his own, asks me if I mind about something he wants to do, asks me for my thoughts on anything...
Gets up 10 minutes earlier so he can warm the vehicle
Buys me scratch tickets lol
He's genuine...what you see is what you get
He is open and willing to try different things, he's not always stuck on his own way of doing things
He takes discussions with a grain of salt - he's not blinded by his perception of things, he's open to communication that maybe things aren't as he thinks they are
He's consistent... he won't just do something for a few days or a few weeks then go back... if he changes his habits, he sticks with it
His heartbeat calms me down
He knows his way around me... lol

There isn't much I can say annoys me about him. We've had a few more serious-toned conversations, but we have yet to have a real disagreement, or fight. We're on the same page for most things... and when we're not, whatever it is we're not on the same page about doesn't really affect each other so it really doesn't matter.

Hmm.
SO has a great sense of humour and we have similar interests, everything from fishing to TV programs.
Will eat almost anything I put in front of him and will compliment each meal even if it is something new I tried to make and failed miserably at it.
He encourages me and compliments me.
He works hard but takes time off.
He doesn't go out and party with the guys, prefers to be at home :), Seldom drinks...Maybe once a year if that, even then it is very little, doesn't smoke or use anything else.

My first Husband also had a great sense of humour. Ate almost anything I made. But he worked too hard, 24/7. Seldom took time off. He never said no to his boss for fear of loosing his job and always had this need to prove to his dad that he wasn't a failure or the lazy useless piece of shit he always called him as a child. (His father was very abusive when he was growing up).
He liked his drink and smoked but quit off and on. Quit before he died.
After 18 years working 24/7 with this one company and becoming extremely stressed to exhaustion and me pleading for years that he slow down or find another job, he finally got the courage to quit and began working for another company. But the damage was already done, his heart was worn out and he died 2 years later.