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Husband has more respect for his son than me

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Submitted by Echojen on Sun, 09/11/2016 - 7:46pm

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Our last child at home is a senior.... My husbands son. My husband and I rarely fight but when we do I insist that we are quiet so his son doesn't hear. My husband says he doesn't care if he hears. My confusion is that whenever my husband needs to talk to his son about something he closes the doors and whispers. We have two daughters that my husband knows everything that goes on with them but he keeps everything with our son a secret.... This makes me feel disrespected.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 09/11/2016 - 7:52pm

You are disrespected. If your DH has more respect for his prior relationship spawn than for you then you have a decision to make. Why do you choose to tolerate this?

Grow some lady balls and put your foot up DH's ass.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Mon, 09/12/2016 - 1:22am

You are to sensitive lady, ignore it.... if DH wants to talk to SS in private simply ignore it, disengage, do not worry what they talk about. You say you have 2 daughters as well, I assume it's yours and DH's.... he's their father, he should know what's cooking in their lives, SS is not your kid, you do not have to know what's going on in his life and believe ne it's the better option.

If the girls is not DH's kids, stop sharing with him, it's that easy, and no it's not spiteful, DH is telling you each to their own kids.

Now SS is almost gone, hang in there for another year and disengage... not your kid and not your problem.

Try not to fight with DH, I can't remember last time I had a fight with SO, if he starts going off, I look at him and say... I'm not your brat, I did nothing wrong go and take your stress out on some one else, then I walk away.
If SO and Aergia does something to tick me off, I tell them ... enough do not do that bablablabla... then I walk away as well.... SO might think he can have a fight, I just say, I did not like it and I'm allowed to have my own vies, opinions and feelings, do not tell me how I should feel....

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Submitted by CANYOUHELP on Mon, 09/12/2016 - 6:49am

If you do not deserve to know anything about his son, then you do not need to any longer engage with this son. Ask nothing, do nothing for him, husband will eventually catch on. Tell husband you want the SS to know NOTHING about you. It will be interesting to see his reaction if you consistently follow through. And, if these daughters are not his, he would never know a single thing about them, just like you have to deal with in the SS now. To talk to them, go in close the door, and whisper...lol.

Yes, you are being disrespected in your own house, turn the tables.

It is worth a try....