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Some days I just can't...

moeilijk's picture

I just can't. My eyes don't move fast enough to skip certain names, and I didn't know about a certain dramatic poster and foolishly started to read.

Today, it's just too much. I am, right this moment, suffering a mixture of sadness, disappointment, frustration and embarrassment at what I've read today. I too am a human, able to use the internet and a keyboard. The difference is, I try to use my powers for good... but sometimes the bad seems so big.

Deep sigh. Fresh start tomorrow.

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robin333's picture

Moe, you are one of the kindest and most insightful posters here.

There are times when I should bite my tongue but usually realize that afterwards.

BSgoinon's picture

Moe, this is why I don't respond very often.

I honestly PRAY that some of these posts are not true. That they are bored people with nothing better to do than make up lives on the internet. Because if they are true, this world is SERIOUSLY eff'd up. I too wish I hadn't opened a certain post today. But I did. And it was disturbing. I had to close ST all together for a while.

Thank you for being a gentle voice of reason in this crazy world.

moeilijk's picture

That might have been what pushed me over the edge, Sally! I had poo and pee on the floor (not me, DD2.5), then she started to run around.... Soooo, that timeout took almost an hour and most of my sanity.

Monchichi's picture

LOL moe! Sweetie that is part of toilet training and it's quite a challenge for us. BabyD is starting hers and she poops in her nappy then takes it off, smearing it on her legs, then dumps it in the potty and claps for herself.

moeilijk's picture

That might have been what pushed me over the edge, Sally! I had poo and pee on the floor (not me, DD2.5, we're both fully potty-trained), then she started to run around.... Soooo, that timeout took almost an hour and most of my sanity.

Whoops, on my phone so my edit is in a new comment. Monchichi, she's been in underwear all day for more than 6 months now. It's not wanting to do what she is doing. I'm working on it!

moeilijk's picture

There are a few posters recently who have almost-unbelievable stories, in which they cannot see any viewpoint but their own painfully selfish one, and another couple who have nasty comments for others. Not just disagreeing, or even just being inflammatory for the sake of being inflammatory, but actual outright attacks.

Today is much better, but sometimes I feel like I'm watching a movie where everyone walks around making false confidences, gossiping and being aggressively unpleasant to each other. I keep telling everyone to smarten up and fly right, but no one listens.

It makes me feel sad. It's hard to see anyone in distress, and nobody who looks for opportunities to tear others down is happy, and nobody who cannot see another's point of view is happy. Maybe they have a lot of anger, frustration, fear, regret, who knows.

Sometimes we can help each other by offering compassion, encouragement, discussing choices, offering practical suggestions or a different viewpoint. But yesterday, man... I was all out.

Is_What_It_Is's picture

I don't know the specific post (or poster) you are talking about - but I do know exactly the thoughts you are talking about! I am not a frequent poster by any means, but I do get a lot of information and help by reading about others. Sometimes it is frustrating and disheartening and it makes me truly wonder.... I then take a break for a while to gain my own perspective.

Deep down I think we all go through those same emotions and it is tough. I do hope you are having a better day. (((hugs)))

moeilijk's picture

Thank you for your kind words, everyone! We all have days like that, I know, I know! It was a really crappy day for me anyway, so I guess I was all out of give a flying squirrels.

I'm just about back to normal now. Smile

moeilijk's picture

When people are just harping on a theme that's near and dear to their heart but causes them to lose perspective, I usually ignore. If their loss of perspective is complete and total, I sometimes say something just to point out that, in fact, there are lots of choices that are all ok, and other people feel just as strongly about what's right for them as that particular poster might feel about their choices.

When people are just outright aggressive or offensive, I have stopped engaging entirely and just flag as offensive. I do it after the third unreasonably antisocial post of the day. (That I have an algorithm for this... lol!)

When people are barmy and go all armchair psychologist or financial advisor or career planner on a post, or are otherwise up very high on their horse indeed, I ignore. Some people you just can't take seriously.

When people post stories, I try to help... unless the only point of view they are willing or able to consider is their own. If they block all suggestions or ideas other than their own... I move on. Whether their situation is outrageous or just everyday challenging, they need help and I'd like to try to help. But I start to wonder if their story is real when it's clear there is no intention to change anything about it, it just seems like some bizarre joke. That goes for the small-scale stuff to the shocking tales as well.

Jasper, I saw what went down on a couple of your blogs. You cannot save the world. Unbelieveable that you would get attacked for drawing the line, but that happens a lot, actually. It's like a certain status quo gets to be the norm, even though it's clearly not ok. Then when someone shakes things up, oh no, the sky is falling! Amazing that people you only know via this website would react that way when you decide you need to save yourself.

I hope things are going better for you already. You really deserve the world on a string.

MineAndYours's picture

"IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY..DON'T SAY NOTHING AT ALL"

I try to pick the good out of posts and give good posts in return. Sometimes it's hard to find the good as some people here rip you to shreds..it's either their way or no way.

Sometimes I think that it's better not to come here and share...but it DOES help to know that there are others in the same situation..and even that others have it worse.

Tuff Noogies's picture

agreed, moe. glad i was out yesterday. it's been getting to me too. for the next long while, if i log in at all i'm going to stick to positive posts, funny posts, and those posters i know well.