“SS says you hate him”. That is the text that I received from MIL Wednesday night. I ignored at first, but come Thursday morning it was still on my mind, so I responded by asking why she thought that. This, as expected, went into a long text conversation with me explaining why he might think that, (since she didn’t like my response saying that he’s said that about several people, it’s just this time it was me he said it about and she can’t have that!), but for example…maybe because I try to make him mind, be respectful, teach him a little empathy, inform him that when he’s mean other kids aren’t going to like him, etc, and SS6 does not like it! And most other people in his life do not do this, they pretty much let him do what he wants and do not try to teach him how he should behave. I also explained that I do not hate SS, but I do not like his behavior and that is no secret. Then she went on about how I need to love SS like my own and I could if I just allowed myself, that she loves my bio’s like her own grandchildren, blah blah. I ended up just not responding to her last text because I was getting P*****.

But if nothing else came of the conversation with MIL, my DH texted me after he read my texts between MIL and I, that he wanted me to know “that I do appreciate what you do and you have made me a much better parent” and he said “I would hate to even think of what SS would act like if you were never in our lives.” That actually made me cry. I had gotten to the point that I felt like every time that I said something about SS’s behavior or anything, that DH was getting more and more resentful towards me. I’m glad that he recognizes and appreciates how much I have helped him.

After DH and I got home last night we discussed the situation a little bit and he then said he doesn’t want to be in the middle of mine and MIL’s issues. I informed him that he is in the middle because it’s his mother! That I am dealing with all this crap just because I am with him! That if he says anything it should be in support of me and to stand up for me to his mother, not that he doesn’t want to be put in the middle! After thinking about it, he said I was right.

Well, this morning before leaving for work he gave me his phone to read texts he sent his mom last night after I went to bed. He stood up for me, telling her how much I do for him and SS and that I do not hate SS and that I treat him well and there is no way to love a step child the same as a bio in our situation. He told her that he loves my bios but not like SS, even though she claimed otherwise. But something I found funny was that MIL contradicted herself in her texts to him and what she had sent me and DH seen it also, ha!

Anyway, I am happy with DH, he done good! There is a pig roast that we were supposed to go to Saturday night with MIL, FIL, BIL and his GF and all of her family and some friends. I wasn’t looking forward to going before because I just didn’t enjoy myself much last time. But I told DH I wasn’t going now, I do not want to spend my Saturday evening with MIL and her family and friends being uncomfortable. I told him he can go if he wants. He said he wasn’t going without me. I kinda feel bad because he wants to go, but really it’s MIL’s fault that I don't want to go.