STEP HELL
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Seriously, are we all in this "Step Hell" world? Is is just because we are all broken families or is there something more?
Personally, being a STEP-Parent is the WORST job I have ever had. I would rather clean up vomit everyday, all day then deal with the BS of my SKIDS. What keeps all of us in this limbo of STEP HELL?
I cringe almost every day because my glorious spouse just let's his kids do whatever they want whenever they want while I am TRYING to raise my kids with some order and respect for others. I am just blown away with all these posts. I am blown away with how much crap I tolerate now compared to what I did before.
I guess we have all settled. Rant over.
I question the same thing on
I question the same thing on the daily. To figure out why I stay I subtract out everything to do with his kids, Disney dad issues, the fights, hygiene issues with kids, my hard feelings and then I am left with the man I fell in love with. That is why I stay BUT I can say that each time Disney Dad arrives on the scene I feel a little bit of my respect for him erodes away. I hope that one day we can find a way to deal with my feelings and meet half way BEFORE all respect is gone but I guess time will tell.
Your glorious husband needs
Your glorious husband needs to stop letting his kids do whatever they want and start being an actual father to them.
That my friend is never going
That my friend is never going to happen. He has two adult children that have no ambition in life. One works fast food and the other sponges off of anyone who will help.
I am becoming bitter and cynical. I feel like the person I used to be is nothing but a memory. I am working on changing my situation.
Do they live with you?
Do they live with you?
I feel like that a lot too.
I feel like that a lot too. My husband and I have been married just under a year. I have 2 girls and he has 3 girls and all 5 live with us. We made rules together yet I'm the authoritative parent and he's the permissive parent. I discipline my 2 and his never get disciplined. They are all good students and good for the most part. What makes me mad is that his 10 y/o will flat out ignore me unless I make her speak and he allows it. It makes me mad that I can do everything for the kids, treat them all the same yet if his kids don't respect me or say thank you or respond when I'm talking he doesn't say anything. Whenever I bring stuff up to him about consequences and the way they act to me we end up in an argument. Sadly I'm at the point where I dread doing anything with the 10 y/o or being around her much....just makes me cranky and in a bad mood because I really want to tell her how it is but I know I can't!
I am in the same boat as you.
I am in the same boat as you. He tells me all the time the kids need to do chores and that they have to help out around the house. So I tell them when they need to do their chores, my son gets up right away and does what he has to, his 10 year old daughter not so much. It takes me telling her 2-3 times to then having to yell at him and saying "can you please tell your daughter to do her stuff." for her to then get up. But yet when she wants clothes, shoes, or anything else I am the the best person around. I treat all his kids like they were my own, yet i get nothing in return. I also have come to the point where I dread being around his 10 y/o. I actually work as late as I possibly can on the nights I know my son is with his dad and she will happen to be there.
Oh let me not get started on the other 2 kids he has...that could take up your whole day.