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"I might have to start dating!"

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Submitted by Calypso1977 on Tue, 12/09/2014 - 8:52am

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So apparently BM is all upset because SD14 is now spending her mom weekends hanging out with her friends going to the movies, their houses, the mall, etc. rather than doing "mother-daughter" things at home. I guess they got into it one day and SD told my fiance that BM said to her something to the effect of "if you are going to be gone all the time i might have to start dating!"

god i hope she does AND i hope SD gives that guy and her mother as much grief and crap as she's given us. but sad that she put that monkey on SD's back.

the reality is, BM will have to find someone. she will have no money and no one to take care of her once CS ends and her parents die.

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Submitted by Calypso1977 on Tue, 12/09/2014 - 11:05am

we dont think she's dated at all. she told my fiance once that "she wouldnt do that to her daughter". this is the same woman who tried to get all sorts of morality clauses into the parenting plan (and failed miserably).

no one would date her. we live in a part of the country where most people are fairly well educated professionals. she has only a HS diploma, no career and lives with her parents (by choice). she'd have to try to meet someone online. she's already lying to people saying she is a nurse when in reality she's a patient care tech (i.e., the person who cleans the bedpans, transports patients, etc.)

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Submitted by One-Of-My-Own on Tue, 12/09/2014 - 1:00pm

Calypso1977--This is eerily similar to my situation! SD11 is with BM every weekend during the summer and this past summer SD came to our house and said that her mom told her that she was going to start dating because SD is always at a sleepover with her friends from school on the weekends. Fast forward 6 months and BM now has a guy (who happens to be very nice--not sure how she snagged him) living with her and SD. SD likes him but doesn't want to live with him because it is "weird." BM told her "Well, you are just going to have to deal with it because I only started dating because you were never around." SMH.

Hopefully your SD will learn to understand that her mother's dating life, or lack their of, has nothing to do with her and she should just continue having fun with her friends.

Oh, and BM also tried to get a morality clause in the parenting plan because DH and I lived together for a while before getting married. The judge actually laughed at her...