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Frustrated with bio mom

Momx3's picture

I have been married to my husband for three years and we have a child of our own along with my two children from a previous relationship. My husband has thirteen year old fraternal twins (a boy and girl). The twins are really great kids, but their mother is destroying them. A year and half ago my step son reported to Child Protective Services that I threw my son down the stair. It was found unfounded, as physically I was unable to do that and my son would have had severe physical trauma to his body. My step daughter also came forward and said that her brother was lying about the whole thing. So my step son never was disciplined for his actions and I still have a hard time dealing with him.
Too make matters worse their mom took us back to court to try to get full custody, we have joint. She did it on the grounds of the alleged abuse. We had to hire an attorney and spent $18,000 to have nothing changed. It put the kids as well as our family through hell.
Now the twins' mom spoils them, they have everything from cell phones to tablets to expensive clothing. My husband and I cannot afford those things, as we have three additional children to take care of. The twins' also do not have any boundaries or rules at their mom's, which causes a lot of arguments and drama over at our house. For example, the school principal called my husband in regards to the fact that my step daughter was wearing too proactive clothing at school. We discussed before with her and do not purchase these items for her. The problem is her mom buys her push-up bras and short shorts. Keep in mind she is just thirteen years old.
My step son on the other hand is very lazy and just demands things, like he will only wear Nike and Under armour clothing. He refuses to listen to me and is very disrespectful. I have tried really hard with both kids, but I often feel a sigh of relief the week they are not with us. How do I feel better about them being with us and get over all the lies that were told? I have gone to counseling and still feel very hurt. I feel like everyone wants me to bury the past, when my wounds are so fresh still.

oldone's picture

If someone made up lies like that about me I would never allow them in my presence again. That's serious stuff.

They do not sound like great kids to me at all. They sound like horrible horrible people.

missflo's picture

Amen dtzyblnd! People who tell mean nasty self serving manipulative lies are... mean nasty self serving manipulative liars. Pretty simple huh?