My SD17 has been with me for 15 yrs and I have always had a close relationship with her until recently. The bio mom has PAS and has always tried to keep her from us. I always thought it would get better as time goes on but for the moment I don't see it that way. BIO mom has let SD do whatever she pleases just to keep her from moving in with us. I am always here for her and she comes to me before her parents about many things. I know her better than her parents. Truth be told she is a lot like me at her age and I usually know her moves before she even knows them. A week before she told me she has sex for the first time I already told my husband it was about to happen. He didn't believe me until she asked me to pick her up and go for a ride so we could talk. I said I don't think they are using protection, again my DH didn't believe it. My SD never admitted to this to me bc she knew no matter what any parents said I would take her to get protection. I made that clear before she was active. DH and Bio mom just tell her not to do it again. The only reason she told them was because I convinced her to. Well that went out the window. She got pregnant and miscarried. After this BM put her on the shot. That was the most serious of things I knew and my dh and her BM didn't know about but there has been many other times. SD has always wanted to be with me and this infuriates her BM and even my DH. So BM started giving in even more. BM got SD a car with no rules. BM gives SD and friends alcohol in her home. BM has no curfew for SD. BM buys all the best clothes for SD. This started when she turned 15. Now two years late BM is nasty to SD and gossips about her to the whole family and town. She takes her phone and acts like she is her to talk to SD's friends and to us by texting. SD calls me crying about what is going on but there isn't much I can do unless she were to move in with us. SD isn't going to do that bc she knows our rules are different here. My inlaws and dh dont enforce seeing her and really don't make much of an effort. BM is playing mid games with SD and even BM's family talks about my SD. She isn't a bad kid! She is just a kid who has always gotten her way and now that it isn't this way anymore she is having a hard time adjusting to it. I would have been her if I didn't have the amazing mother I was given. Has anyone been through this? I just hate sitting here waiting for something terrible to happen to my SD!