This year my husband and I only had one event to go to on Thanksgiving day, and that was to see my grandpa who recently moved into a memory care facility. The facility was kind enough to allow us the use of one of the rooms for a small family gathering with out of town relatives. My husband had told his kids the plan: we were going to visit him and family around 5, then back to our house for appetizers with just me, DH, & kids, starting the food around 7. They were more than welcome to come with us, but no pressure or worries if they did not want to. They had lunch with their mom's family earlier in the day, and arrived at our house around 3:30. My SS18 had plans to go to his girlfriend's family for dinner, and my SD14 said she did not want to go with us, she had got up early so she was going to take a nap on the couch. DH, myself, BS18 and his girlfriend left for my grandpa's gathering around 5:20, with SD14 laying on the couch wrapped in blankets with her headphones on. We got home at 7 to find no SD14. DH called her and she did not answer, so he called her mom. BM had picked her up at 6:50 and no one bothered to let DH know. I did not find out until today that SD14 was extremely upset/angry about being left alone on Thanksgiving, and that she and DH had a huge fight about it last night. I am not sure what to make of it...she was told the plan, invited to go, and made the choice to stay behind. She did not appear to have a problem with us going before we left. But is now not speaking to DH because of it. She apparently told BMs family that her dad left her alone on Thanksgiving and how awful it was. He is very hurt and feeling like he has done something wrong. Should he have not gone with us because SD14 did not want to go?