:? Well, I signed up to this site bcause i seek help or any advice anyone can give me. I have been with my partner for over 5 years and she has a son from a prior marriage. Which i was cool with, i like kids. When i was at a young age all i had was my Mother, then she remarried and i had a s.d, he was an alright Dad, love the guy. So being with my partner and accepting the fact that when i got with her she had a son and i told her that her son would be treated as if he was my own. ... i didnt realize at 23 yo what i was getting myself into... :? It has been a battle with that child. At first i was lettibg things slide giving it the benfit of the doubt. He was just going to need extra tlc.. sooo naturally over the years of trying to get him involved in sports (btw i wasted hundreds of dollars on classes ..practices he didnt want to go to) tried to bond with the kid.. fishing trips.. shopping.. spending time as a family.. i know its probably hard for him to deal with alot of things with his life.. and hes not that bad of a child just sometimes he is just too damn much.. but please someone give me some advice.. i just want to be happy with his Mom and him..

He is 13yo and he stays with my partner and I as of 2mos ago, but before that he lived with us full time for the past 6 years... during the week and on the weekend he stays with his bio father. 2 mos ago his real father put up such a fuss about wanting to raise his own son, and how my partner and i couldnt raise a boy into a man..(btw this is coming from a human that cannot hold a job for more thn 3mos. and lives off his mother that is ill...how fucking lame is that??) Nehoot..my partner and i talked about it, and gave the bio father a chance to finally be a father to the child. And i swear 2mos. later we get.a phone call saying that he cant deal with his sons drama..and that he is just too much too handle and to come pick him up. When we got there all his things were picked and he was ready to go.

And now 2mos here back home he has been very disrespectful. Cursing at his Mother calling her out of her name. Not wanting to go to school at times. Not wanting to wear apporiate clothing to school. Will not do anything you ask of him unless you promise to buy him something. If i say dont do that, i have to say it about 5 times before he gets it by that time im sooo irraittated with him i dont want to be around him. Have to continously tell him to do anything..take out the trash..pick up his room, which he doesnt his Mom has to do it... That really pisses me off.. it makes me sooooo mad when he talks back to his Mom ..tells her to fuq off, shut up, go to hell, and just has no respect for her at all, only if he wants something. He is only in a happy mood if we are going out and doing something.. he hates staying home and throws the biggest fit. But when i put him in sports he didnt likethat either. And since he goes on the weekends with his father when he comes back he is very disrespectful and that goes for about a good 3-4 days then for one day he is such a good kid to get along with. Then he is off to his dads and the cycle begins again. This has been an on going cycle from my stepson for about 5yr now. I hate Sunday Nights at Our House.

Can anyone break this cycle?? sheesh, im exhausted..