I am so sad and depressed going into Christmas weekend. I really didn't think it would be this bad but it is. I am truly at the point where I feel like I have to start considering whether or not I can stay in my marriage because I hate my stepson. He's 14 and he constantly drives me up the wall. He lies all the time about dumb stuff for no apparent reason or to cover up something he did. Like today his dad asked him if he needed to charge his phone and offered to plug it in for him. Kid said "oh no, it's at 74%". Dad then said "Let me plug it in for you anyway so it's all charged up" and he immediately recanted and said "Oh! It's at 2%". And his dad didn't call him on it at all. He never does. And the kid always lies. Last weekend I had bought him more deodorant and handed it to his dad to put it in his bag to go home and he jumped up from eating cereal and said "I'll put it in there!" And ran back to his room with the deodorant. I was concerned because obviously he didn't want us to see what was in his backpack. He used to hide candy wrappers in there and other food items when he secretly ate in his room (we don't allo this). There was no food to hide this time because we didn't buy any junk food that weekend so now I'm freaked out that he's stealing from us. I believe he would do it too. He is always commenting on several things in our house he thinks are cool and has even asked if he could have some things (we said no). We collect toys and art pieces and have a huge music collection in various formats, all of which he is very interested in. His dad didn't even blink at this super suspicious behavior. Also, he's just turning into a very rude, surly, ignorant, self-absorbed, thinks he's so cool piece of garbage. He's wearing hats with idiotic drug references on them to school and doesn't care or try at anything (he's failed a grade twice). He constantly talks like he knows everything by regurgitating Tik-Tok nonsense that isn't true at all and then getting argumentative about its validity. He is also way to rough my dogs and won't leave them alone. I barely tolerate the other child, but this kid has me extremely stressed out and overwhelmed. I know my husband is not doing a great job setting boundaries with him and that is part of the problem. But he gets superior defensive when I try to bring these things to his attention. He just acts like it's typical kid stuff and I'm overreacting. I just don't think I can put up with this kid for the rest of my life. It's just making me so sad to consider leavi by my marriage because of this brat. I love my husband very much and our life outside of the kids. I don't know how to make this decision.