OK, I’ve talked about this teen and his eating now it’s his attitude towards his father that is really getting to me. At the moment he is with us for 6 weeks whilst his mother is overseas. His 18yo brother is also staying because BM doesn’t trust him to live with his SBs during that time and isn’t allowing either of them to be at her home without her or her husband there. (SBs are in their 20s btw).
The youngest SS yesterday laid into his father that he doesn’t buy him any clothes but “Mum does, for which I’m really grateful for” and that the last 3 years of his life have been shit. That his Dad hasn’t supported him in his school work ever, that his father thinks he is only good for labouring work.
All of this is blatant bs. His Dad spends far too much money on him in my opinion (I brought up 4 kids mostly by myself so I know what the cost is), has supported him in school work more than is warranted at his age of 15 nearly 16, and yes, he did say to him that if he carried on as he was he wouldn’t get the grades he needs to go onto university.
I had to leave the room or else I would have lost it. What do others do when their partner is dealing with this behaviour? Do you enter the battleground or keep quiet and support your partner when alone?
I cant talk to SS at the moment because everything he does irritates me so I keep away from him as much as possible.
One of his favourite sayings is that he’s a child so he needs to be looked after and doesn’t need to get an after school or school holiday job. No I suppose not when Dad is there to give you money although it has been cut substantially in the last 6 months in an effort to get SS to take on responsibility.