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Submitted by shootmenow51 on Mon, 01/03/2011 - 4:29pm

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Teenage Stepchildren

Sad I have two sd- one is 15 one 17. The 15 yr old is fat, smells and is socially lacking. They are the most self centered lazy kids i have ever known. It was a 50-50 split w/ my husbands x until the wacko married a guy she met on line from turkey. Now I have the 15 yr old full time who gives me looks of death. When I pick her up from school I have to open the window and keep my nose covered the entire time because she smells. Now I hate it when my husband kisses me and I want a divorce. He does everything to make them happy and forgets about me. I am not about to spend my money to send them off to college. I know their own mom is not. Why should I? Help.

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Submitted by 007Lostit on Mon, 01/03/2011 - 5:22pm

Divorce him then. Nothing in your posts indicates you care at all, and you have no "feelings" for the hubby any longer. Sounds over.

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Submitted by mommyto6 on Tue, 01/04/2011 - 5:27am

She may need you to help her out. Hygiene is something that needs to be taught and it sounds like in the 50/50 split, our SD missed out. Obviously, daddy isn't really going to be able to show a daughter how to really clean well and take care of a female body. Sounds like her BM neglected to teach her child what to do. Maybe you can make a day of it and take them to get some pampering stuff and just teach her how to be a clean girl. My daughters are tweens, and they too end up with B.O. but we just have to teach them what to do to get rid of it. Making fun of the kids for how they smell will just make them resent you when what they really need is some help.

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Submitted by WishIwerehappy on Sun, 01/09/2011 - 8:31pm

I am new to the site and am sad I am here tonight. I am really struggling to love my stepchildren (boy 15, girl 12). I try so hard and pray so diligently to be kind, gentle and patient. My stepson argues with anyone who talks to him including me. He contradicts everything I say. My stepdaughter enjoys telling guests all my faults. I usually just take it and pray for God to fill my heart with love. Tonight I am struggling. Any advice from Christians who are struggling in a blended family?

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Submitted by Whateva on Mon, 01/10/2011 - 7:45am

I think you should leave if you are not in love any longer with your husband, however if you stay protect your assets so that you are not involved in his kids college arrangements.

I see nothing wrong with her expressing the stink in her car when she picks up a teenage skid. i am not sure where it is a given that teens smell? I didn't smell when I was a teen nor did any of my girlfriends or boyfriends. i get tired of ppl making ill behavior of kids, tweens or teens as "that is to be expected" well what happened to expecting "decent" behavior? A young lady at that age should be taught and expected to keep up with her hygiene, I am not saying you should necessarily leave due to her stinking but i am sure there are deeper issues than the body odor...but again if you and your husband are not on the same page..it is a life of more misery!

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