Husband's Daughter Doesn't Acknowledge My Existence!
New to site. Need SERIOUS help. Our background: Husband has 16 year old, which he was estranged from until 2 years ago. We have been married over 5 years. In the beginning I asked lots of questions like, "When was the last time you talked to her?" Or have you called her lately?" etc. He had been hurt in the past. She had asked him not to call, because it made her mom and stepdad argue. Stepdad was all for husband seeing her, but her mom,not so much. Now: Husband talks/texts with her everyday and visits 1 or 2 times a month. They live 5 hours away. She has NEVER been to our house and I have only been invited up once, which I went. Things were awkward, but everyone was polite. I am a baker. Her mom asked me to make her a cake the DAY BEFORE my husband was to visit. Luckily, he and I had already talked about it and I was literally in the process of finishing it. All the inlaws tell me to be careful with his ex, as she is crazy, but she is always nice to me. I certainly don't want to force myself on stepdaughter and would hate to put my husband into a position that made our already horrible situation any worse. I KNOW it isn't supposed to be about me. But, I am to the point where I am starting resent my husband for not standing up for me, but I understand that he is still building a relationship with her. I am a Christian and I feel I have responsibilities to teach the child, be an example to her, but I don't want to overstep the very clearly laid boundaries, by her, her mom and my husband- I am NOT a feminist, at all, obviously. I don't want to mess any of it up. I actually feel guilty for being so selfish. Anyone been in a similar position or have any positivity for me?