i have a situation.I love My SD...She is a straight A student, good in sports, has an awesome sense of humour, but she cleary has abandoment issues. She was an only child and her mom gave her up willingly in the divorce to her father which is what my step daughter wanted to happen. She choose to stay with her dad all the while knowing that she would be moving countries and having to deal with new siblings. . She still has visits with her bio mom but there are clearly issues for my SD and her BM. I do try my best to spend one on one time with her via web cam... phones and texting and in person when she is here. I know she needs a lot of attention right now and that she is having a hard time figuring out where she fits in... literally. she lives in another country still and I know that she just wants to be here with me and my kids full time. I dont know maybe i should just give it all some more time but i have been in her life for about 2 yrs now and I know she is absolutly TERRIFIED that I will not want her. I do reassure all the time that she is here to stay. I treat her just like my own fleash and blood but I dont think she believes that I could love her and I want her to stay. when she is with me I spend almost every waking moment with her and the kids. however lately she follows me everywhere and watches EVERYTHING I do. She is CONSTANLY kissing me and hugging me and most alarmingly lately grabbing my bottom and trying to nuzzle my breasts when she hugs me. Both my Fiance and i have told her nicely it is not approp. and to stop but it continued. He has become angry at her and told her to knock it off that it was really inapprop. to which she did say she was sorry and then it stopped but mostly just in front of him... but was much improved. Then she started again ... She actually groped me in public and that was the last straw for me. I told her point blank not to touch me again unless she could do so in an appropriate manner. When she is confronted or sees that she is upsetting me she seems genuinly upset and is very sorry and tearful. Now all this being said i must say I love her to death and so do my 2 bio kids aged 4 and 9. They all get along remarable well. I know she is going through alot and my biggest fear is failing her somehow. I think the problems that are surfacing my be beyond my reach and I wonder if I should try to get her to talk to a professional. I think she should anyway just to sort through her feeling about her bio mom. any thoughts? am i making to much of it? Should I just let it ride for now and see what some time does for the situation?