Advise Please!!
I need some advise!! My husband and I have been married for 6 years, I have an 8 year old SS and we have a 4 year old daughter together. My husband is a truck driver and is gone all week long and has to stay out a lot on the weekends.l love my SS but recently have started to have mixed emotions about the whole step parent thing. BM and I have just recently started getting along before it was a nightmare . I am the one who has to go get SS an take him back and call BM if there is a problem, I am doing everything, my husband even wants me to do the discipline. We get SS every weekend and I get him even when my husband is not home, my husband and BM expect me to. He really doesn't listen to me when husband is not home and even when I have something to do and tell BM she is constantly texting telling me that SS is crying for me and wants to come over. I just really feel like I need a brake. I never get a brake from kids I always have our daughter and then every weekend SS! Husband is kid free most all the time and BM is kid free every weekend! When my husband is home I still have to do everything for SS he barely spends time with the kids, I just don't know what to do!! Is it my job to get SS even when husband is not home, if not how can I tell my husband I need a brake from SS in a nice way that he is not mad at me and BM doesn't start problems again?
I just wanted to say its
I just wanted to say its nearly 2 am and I spelled break ( like the brakes on a car)
I think the way you just told
I think the way you just told us s fine. It's fair and reasonable. BM gets a break, DH gets away pretty much Scott free, and you never get a break. Your not being unreasonable. Perhaps DH could even every other weekend make himself completely responsible for the kids, ie entertaining them, bathing them whatever, but I agree, you do need a break. If dads not home, then honestly, SS should stay with BM and dad can make up the time when he is home.
Thank you so much for the
Thank you so much for the advise, it really helps.
That is the truth, you are
That is the truth, you are truly right, I appreciate your honesty. I understand what your saying. He does cry when I have to take him home he always wants to stay longer if its just SS, daughter and myself, but SS is always ready to go home when my husband is home. The only reason I have not said no is cause I feel sorry for SS he has nothing to play with over at BM and she is with another guy all the time, and at
Our house I have made sure he has thing nice clothes, playstation, iPad and etc. but you are right it is not right for them to run over me and expect me to raise their son. I'm gonna have to start telling them NO!!