HELP!!! stepchild who hates everything I do for him
I have 3 soon to be step children, along with 3 of my own. My boyfriend is a railroad conductor and isn't home alot. His 3 children live with us full-time, he recently received sole custody of them thru his divorce. My children are with me every other week (their father and I split everything 50/50)
My problem is no matter what I do for my 7 year old stepson, he whines, cries, throws a fit and is down right disrespectful towards me. I can reward them with pizza hut or taco bell, or even today we got out of the house and went mushroom hunting, he cried and threw a fit cause we was outside. He wanted to go home, so I say okay let's go, we're leaving and he cried and threw a fit because we did what he wanted to do!
I don't know if I'm doing something wrong, if it's his mother (who they haven't seen in a while) or their dad, or just him.....
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It seems like he is acting
It seems like he is acting out because he's upset and doesn't really know what he wants. From his point of view, his mother has abandoned him, and his father is away a lot. A child that age will not understand why daddy chooses to go away to work all the time and he will be feeling equally rejected from that standpoint too. As much as I'm eager to jump on bad SK behaviour, this little boy is in pain. 7 years is also the natural 'little shit' stage. They can develop a bit of an attitude at this age, not that it should be tolerated. It may do to have a talk with your boyfriend next time he's home about how SS is behaving and how to tackle it. How close are you to SS? Could you have a gentle talk with him to see what is bugging him?
So don't do any thing for him
So don't do any thing for him. He can either STFU regarding what you do or... he can receive nothing from you.
His choice. 7yo is plenty old enough to learn the consequences of crappy behavior. Deliver the message.