SS almost 14 has just come back from the school holidays with his Mum.... its only been a few days but already I cant wait for him to go away again.

We have only had custody of SS for 2 1/2 years. Basically BM wanted to move 8 hrs away and DH said if you go you go alone......... finally she agreed to let him come live with us......

Now its not that he's a bad kid.......... I would just prefer he didn't live with us.....

I get frustrated with his mess, failure to look after his pets and do the things he is meant to...... he doesn't appreciate that we have spent so much money on him (moved towns so he could go to a better school (mortgage debt), guitar lessons, got everything he needs)..... I think most of all its just the fact that he is here............

I simply don't have the DNA to be a step parent.

I know I sound really selfish............. I have tried to relax and get over myself but I just don't seem to be able to........ we went to some councilling but DH out a stop to that when councilor told him he has a drinking problem.....

It's tough because there is no way he can go and live with his mother and turn out to be a half decent citizen....... this is a mother who thinks its appropriate for a 10 year old to watch R18 movies and play R18 video games, has no rules, lets him do whatever he wants whenever he is with her.

I don't know how to turn this around so that I can be happy......