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Bm is doing her crap with the councilor now

Stepinsanity's picture

Last week it was bm's turn to take the kids for counciling. The session is scheduled for Mondays at 4 in a town about an hour away. That same day the school was having the physicals and drug testing for the kids. I spoke with the band director and explained that the kids had Counciling at that time and the director told me that they didn't have to do that at the school, they could goto any doctor to have it done. Well I let bm know to get with the kids doc to have that scheduled for sd since she was going to miss the schools because of counciling. Well, Monday comes and dh met bm at the normal spot to let her have the kids. Dh noticed though that instead of driving in the direction of the highway when she left, she headed towards her home. To make it to the councilling session on time she would have needed to leave then and not go home. So we called the councilor up to find out if they made it to the session. Only got voicemail so has to leave a message. A couple of days letter we get this interesting email from bm giving excuses to why the kids didn't goto Counciling and that the councilor had called her and told her that we had called asking if they went. We never got a call from the councilor. I am so mad at the councilor ove this. She knows of the problems we have had with bm and her manipulation. She knows that the kids problems are due to bm's actions. We are the ones who put the kids into Counciling and when bm tried changing the Counciling to a different place that she had a friend working at and was able to manipulate the councilors, we got it court ordered for Counciling to remain at where we had been taking the kids too. So now bm has been able to manipulate the councilor so we are nolonger the first contact but she is. For over a year up until two weeks ago if the councilor needed to call someone, it was always either me or dh. Now she is only calling bm. This is the third time in the last two weeks she has called her. One of the other calls was also initiated by me calling. It wasn't anything major so I didn't even give it a second thought that time, but then she turns around and calls bm to let her know we were checking up on the kids making it to the appt? I really had alot of faith in this woman until I seen that she's allowed bm to manipulate her too. I spoke with my cousin who is also a childs councilor and she told me to approach her as this being a confidentiality issue but I really want to ream her a new one!

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hismineandours's picture

How's it a confidentiality issue? Both parents are entitled to medical records of the child, thus both are able to talk to the counselor and the counselor is allowed to call both parents. Ibot may not be that the counselor thought oh, I better call bm to make sure that she knows they called asking if she brought them? It may be that bm called HER about something and in the course of discussion it came up-or it maybe that the counselor called the bm about some sort of suggestion she had for bm and again it was mentioned in conversation. Perhaps the counselor was suggesting to bm that she needs to work on her communciation with you guys since you were wondering if the kids made it to counsseling. Seems to me like both parties are not being completely upfront and the counselor should not be in a position to keep secrets between the parents.

Stepinsanity's picture

Actually, I spoke with the councilor yesterday at the session and she called bm to let her know that we called. As for the confidentiality issue, it is that because the councilors concern is strictly with the skids and it is against regulations for her to call one of the parents and mention anything the other parent has told or asked her. Being that my dh has joint custody, he has the right to know if his kids are making it to the sessions when it is bm's week to take them. Dh and I are the ones who got it court ordered for the kids to continue to get their counciling with this councilor because bm doesn't like her so wouldn't take the kids there otherwise.