I should start this off by saying that my situation could be a lot worse. My stepson is a very sweet kid. He ADORES my 7 month old, gets along with the rest of my family, and generally life at home is fairly calm.

However (there's always a however), I, like many other stepparents on here, have come to resent the crap out of him. I genuinely don't like being around him ever since I had my baby. I know this is fairly normal, but there are also certain behavioral issues that my SS displays that I absolutely cannot stand anymore.

For starters, when I was his age I was doing a lot more shit for myself than this kid does. This morning I told him he needs to wash the bowl he eats popcorn out of bc I HATE washing it. And he's old enough to clean up after himself. He literally turns to me and goes "I don't know how." WHAT?! First of all, this is my DH's fault. Classic Disney Dad. He feels bad for the inconsistencies between our house and his ex wife's house, so when SS is with us, there's virtually no chores, no punishments for bad behavior, etc. So I show the kid how to wash the dish, tell DH what happened, and then later I hear the kid complaining about HAVING TO WASH ONE DISH. I swear I had ten times the amount of chores this kid does when I was his age and HES COMPLAINING ABOUT ONE FUCKING DISH.

Then last night my DH had to barge into the bathroom and literally regulate his shower because the kid was in there for so long...PLAYING WITH ACTION FIGURES. Had he washed his hair? No. Body? No. After 30 minutes, all that had been done was a bunch of water had been wasted. So naturally my DH flipped out, and SS had a complete meltdown. Screaming, tears, the whole 9. It almost woke my baby up and I was livid.

I could go on and on about instances like this (one time my DH actually hand fed SS like a baby at the dinner table bc he wouldn't eat his vegetables), and we are making progress on some things but I have less and less patience with each passing day. I am getting frustrated bc as the step mom, I feel like I only get to parent up to a certain point. I'm not allowed to be the disciplinarian, yet SS DESPERATELY needs a disciplining. Anyone else experience this?