Pregnant Adult Step Daughter
My step daughter is 23 years old. She lives with my husband and myself. I have been "mom" since she was about 13 years old. As she has gotten older, she has become more and more disrespectful to me and I no longer feel like "mom". My husband had a stroke about 3 years ago and the relationship with my stepdaughters has been on edge since that day. My husband didnt get awarded SSI until January of this year, so I have been the provider in our family for the last 3 years. I work long hours and 2 jobs to make ends meet. My step daughters are both adults now but still live in our house. Neither one has worked fulltime since entering adulthood, and I have been supporting all 4 of us. Back in February of this year, my husband was talked into allowing our oldest daughters boyfriend to stay with us, he is a complete BUM. He didn't have a job for the 1st 2 months and my stepdaughter wasn't trying hard to make enough money for them to move out on their own. Found out about a month ago that my stepdaughter is pregnant, I am furious and I want her and her boyfriend gone. I cannot take on anymore financial responsibility and they are not trying to even get fulltime jobs so they can get out on their own. I have made it clear to my husband that I am not going to be taking care of another child physically or financially, but he doesn't seem to get how bad our situation has been up until this point. I have also told the stepdaughter that this child is not our responsibility and she and her boyfriend need to step up and find a way to be out on their own. While I feel bad for their situation, I know that I cannot do anymore but I feel like my husband feels obligated to continue for them to live with us and for us to help provide for this child. How do I not allow this situation to ruin my marriage if my husband continues to be on their side? I cannot allow them to drag me down into their mess, we already struggle so badly fiancially as it is.