Is this normal?
Is this normal ?
I've officially disengaged before actually engaging.
My fiancé and I are getting married next month and since his adult daughter heard the news of the official date she refuses to speak to him ( or at least has threatened not to speak to him). For a few weeks every weekend at around 9 to 10 pm she would call to argue with him for an hour or so (and yell at him regarding her inheritance, etc., or ask for money). I ended that by taking the phone off the hook after 10pm ( they now call each other during work hours.) But now, she's threatened to ban him from her life. I hate to say it, but OK with me. I guess I'm truly evil because no problem, buh bye. I now have peace again in my relationship with him, and in my life.
For two weeks we have not spoken of her. I don't ask, and he doesn't bring her up. Is this normal? Because honestly, it works for me. I think it works for husband-to-be as well. Things have been peaceful. I love my husband-to-be, but I'm all for keeping the pita SD separate from my life. He now listens to her ranting during work hours, and they can make plans together to visit without me; all I want is for him to keep her poisonous self the hell away from me and my family. I have no desire to hear what she's pissed about.
If she cant handle our relationship in a mature and civil manner, she's not welcome to call my home and is not welcome to come around. No problem.
Am I cruel by "normal" standards? Because really, I have NO desire to try to be nice/ patient, etc., as so many of you did early in your relationships.