New here & struggling
I’ve just joined this site as I’ve come to a point where I do not know where to turn. I think i could do with counselling but sadly I can’t afford that right now so I’m hoping you guys can help.
My story is long like most of you I expect but a brief view:
my husband and I have been together for 12 years and have an 8 year old son. My husband has 3 children who are 30,24&21. The 2 oldest have generally been ok, the odd issue here and there but generally ok.
The youngest I am not sure what to do next.... We’ve always kept in contact and seen her right from the beginning but naturally as she got older friends took over and she wanted to see them instead. Over time she’s grown up and has a boyfriend and a full time job and she now seems to resent us. Even when she was small the time we all shared was hard work, she is very much a mummies girl and mummy hates us without good reason but that’s another story. She has always been hard work to make conversation with and the time has never been fun as such.
Shes been nasty to me in the past and sent horrible messages etc but I’ve brushed it under the carpet as she’s my husbands daughter and I want them to have a relationship however she doesn’t keep in touch with us, she never texts, calls or visits etc. We often ask her over even though she is well aware she is always welcome because we can’t visit her as she lives with her mother...
However we get sarcastic responses like ‘you are always busy’ and things like that. She shares posts of Facebook knowing I will see them and they say things like ‘don’t feel guilty for not visiting people, they don’t visit hou’ This upsets me as I’ve always made her feel welcome and I’ve always encouraged her relationship with her dad. She accuses us of not seeing her.... how can we if she doesn’t come over and we can’t visit her..
How do we deal with this situation, there is obviously a whole long story that goes with it but I would bore you and be here all day typing!
thanks so much