Ugh just ugh !!! See, my SD21 is different than a lot of the stories I read here. She is very fake and has never been rude once. She refers to my kid's who are not biologically DH's as her brothers, offered to throw my baby shower, but it's all very very fake. She lives with my MIL, works full time. She pays no rent, has no bills but maybe her cell phone and STILL always asks my DH for money and my MIL for money. She uses my MIL who is older and should be relaxing, enjoying her days to watch her kid ALL the time. She always asks my MIL for money since my DH tells me he never gives SD money anymore which I sometimes wonder if he's telling the truth. So the other day he tells me that he talked to his mother and that she told him that she was going to cut her off and stop giving her money and that she is afraid that DH's granddaughter was going to grow up without a mother cause SD is always running off, so then I opened up to DH and told him that it is hard for me to relate to her or even want to deal with her because I was a teenage mother and I was the polar opposite of SD.

I am very independent and dont think I should be my adult children's personal ATM, while Im not opposed to helping I dont agree with always giving money. SO the whole time with everything that I said it was excuse after excuse which makes me sick. I told him before he needed to tell his daughter not to dump HER kid off on his mom all the time and that she needs to be home taking care of her, which he never did. So I just basically came to the conclusion that I want to disengage from her, entirely, I want nothing to do with her. He tells me well she is your daughter, maybe you can help her and then is like but you can't tell her anything in a mean way. I told him I have no interest in saying anything to her.

So fast forward to yesterday she sends him a text claiming she needed money for school supplies. She is going to school for the second time, for which I assume will be another waste of time. She claimed her car insurance was due again. So I brought up the fact that when she received her tax refund a few months ago that she had called and told us that she paid off her insurance policy for the year. He goes oh ya, she probably meant the 6 month coverage. So I said well she works full time, has no bills, why isn't she budgeting her money to pay for her own school supplies and with schooling shouldn't she be getting a grant where she can pay for her school supplies ? He just shrugs his shoulders.

He is always complaining about his brother who is a scumbag and complaining about his SF and I always tell him that his SF shouldn't expect the world to deal with his mistakes and f&#% ups as a parent( with DH's brother) but yet nothing but excuses for his useless daughter who does nothing and is just getting worse and worse. So I asked him what he's going to do he said, "Im going to tell her I dont have the money". I said maybe you should sit down and have a talk with her about what she should be doing and he said nothing.

So like I said, if he is not going to address it and attempt to even fix it, I am done dealing with her. You approve of your child being a f*** up and do nothing but make excuses for it and justify it, then so be it. However, I do not have to deal with her. She is not a little girl, she is a grown woman. I am preggo and this loser has the nerve to always ask for money still, do you realize we have a baby that is coming that needs stuff more than you ?? Sorry so longwinded, I just really needed to vent. Ugh !