How do you deal with adult stepchildren
I have been married for 6 yrs now & I have 2 bio. children & 4 adult stepchildren. For most part I get along with all my step kids and when they drop by to visit I am very kind to them,but have struggled with one of my husbands daughters ,cause I have felt like from day one she has not ever accepted me or my children in her dads life. I have tried to go out of my way to reach out to her to show I care,but she makes no effort at all to show she wants anything from me or to even have me in her life. It has hurt me cause as a stepparent it be nice to be accepted & loved back in return. I guess Im struggling on how I should deal with my emotions & have gotten to point I just dont care or even want to try anymore. I feel after 6 yrs Id think she would of tried to make effort to get to know me,but Im frustrated & Ive wrestled with anger & resentment over how she acts. I cant share my feeling with my husband cause he just gets defensive & doesn't want to hear it. Recently we have found out my SD is going thru a divorce well I had wrote her online & told her we cared for her & was praying for her. No sooner had I wrote it she deleted it off & didnt have courtesy of even replying back. I feel any advice I give her she resents me for.Also when she comes to visit us I get feeling she only comes cause she wants to see her dad & not me. Am I wrong to feel way I do? I guess one has no idea what there getting into when they marry someone with kids & I wonder if I had to high expectations of what I thought our marriage would be like I don't know,but I cant help but to feel like me & my kids are 2nd best only because my husband will gripe to me all time about things my kids do & when I say anything to him about his kids he gets very angry like how dare I. Well thank you for listening I just needed to vent !