How do I get my SS out of my house?
Situation... 30 year old, 2 years sober alcoholic, unemployed stepson with a college degree has lived with us since August 2012. My wife and I get along fine until the subject of her son comes up. He was tossed from his last halfway house due to aromatherapy irritating the other residents. She is currently giving him money for everything - gas so he can go see his girlfriend 30 miles away everyday, fast food, cell phone, cigarettes, medicine, whatever he needs. She's retired, fixed income and not rich. He has it made. A warm bed, a 30 minute shower every day, nice clothes. He has no idea he is poor and homeless.
My wife fears he will relapse if she confronts him and I know he is well aware of her fear. He stays up all night and sleeps all day. I'm ready to shoot him. He is an only child and it shows. I love his mother but I'm about ready to blow up (as I've done once already when he was still drinking) How do I confront him to set limits she's afraid to like get a job by February, move out by March, pay your own way by June, stop taking 30 minute showers everyday without paying the water bill, turn down the space heater when you are a little cold, etc.
He is staying sober, I can say that much good about him...but little else. He's been fired from his last three jobs for various reasons, one for alcohol, once for taking too may smoke breaks and the last was because he left work upset that he didn't get a raise he asked for. He is living the high life every homeless person dreams of.