I wish that I could say that to her face! She has pushed and pushed since she was 15 to try to force her dad to choose between her and I which is absurd to begin with. There should have never been a competition. The background is that I was her primary parent for 9 years. BM is an alcoholic loser who lost all custody except supervised visitation when she was 10. Dh was active duty and was deployed for over 50% of each year. I had 7kids at home and have always been strict about who they were with etc. When they stayed the night at friends houses I always got an address and phone number and would call and speak to a parent first. I limited TV and video games on school days. In short I was a responsible mom who held them accountable for their actions. It succeeded with 6 of the 7 so I know I did it right. She hated it! She wanted to run wild, drink, party, text naked photos Tec and I was standing in her way. She started playing the division game with her dad and I and was quite good at it. She is a master manipulator I will give her that and her dad is a Disney dad who felt guilty the deployments Tec so when he was home she would constantly cause chaos and division. She actually got in my face at 16 and said "do you REALLY think he is going to choose you over me?" Anyway long story short is she almost succeeded in destroying my marriage and my husband realized what she was doing and finally opened his eyes. Having no choice by then because I had already moved out of state he had to actually choose. So on the very DAY she turned 18 he packed his house up and came back to me. Maybe its horrible of me to feel so triumphant but I didn't make the competition and did not engage in it. I just removed myself from the situation and now she is living with friends and licking her wounds. She is shocked that daddy didn't actually stay with her even ONE day longer than he had to. Adios bitch.