Wasted efforts with Bio Mum?
Okay so things have been a little tomultuous recently with the Bio Mum when it came to visitation, but thankfully we have now come to a compromise which has made us alot happier.
Since then i thought it would be really beneficial if we all started making more of an effort with Bio Mum. Bio Mum was nice and allowed us to swap weekends for my daughters birthday, (the SD's are a little young for what we had planned). But we still wanted to see the SD's on my daughters birthday as she adores them. So Bio Mum brought the SD's to her party but didnt want to stay for tea or coffee. I can understand that she probably feels a little intimidated and uncomfortable, but every effort ive made to try and be kind and inviting has been met with excuses to disappear. Perhaps i should be thankful for this, i'm not sure?
I'd personally (and perhaps selfishly) like to build some sort of a relationship with her, to a point where she doesnt feel that i'm trying to usurp her place or undermine her. Just have a friendly relationship would be so nice for the SD's and our own personal stress levels. If she knew me a little better perhaps she wouldnt come to false conclusions about me. Should i just give it more time?