For those who have the psychotic BM to deal with and the SS just like her will understand this. DH loathes the BM because she is a selfish mean lazy lunatic. She takes so many pills everyday her speech is slurred and when her craziness gets her in trouble she will call everyone she knows and 911 and then "attempt" suicide. This has happened 3 times in the last year alone. She cheated on DH constantly and drove him into financial ruin with her spending. She's never worked a day in her life and collects welfare and her daddy bails this 45 year old woman out of trouble every time. She and DH have been divorced for almost a decade yet she still calls him all day to verbally abuse him because she has no one else to take her crap out on.

Now enter SS8 who uses his parents inneffective parenting to his advantage at every turn. BM is always sleeping and pretty much let's SS8 have free reign to do whatever as long as nobody hears about it - meaning DH. DH has "guilty daddy syndrome" and NEVER disciplines his child. Just like BM, SS8 treats DH like total garbage.

SS8 likes to act like an infant. He sucked a pacifier in the first grade. He likes to pretend he's helpless and commands his father around with phrases like "I want it NOW!". He of course thinks he's in charge and controls everyone with his constant head games and tantrums. He will stay out way after dark and we have to call the police to find him. He's stolen other little kids bikes and most recently someone's cell phone. He's flunking out of the second grade. He's recently discovered hypochondria is a great way to get sympathy too. He will be perfectly fine playing and then the next minute when he has to come inside he'll start SCREAMING he has a headache.

My DH was acting really selfish and inconsiderate a lot this past year to me who loves him. My health and happiness have been suffering a lot. Many of you told me to get out fast. But we had a brief reprieve from SS8 as a mediator set up structured visits so he couldn't just demand to go between households whenever he felt like it. Plus BM had a boyfriend with kids for awhile and he would spend some weekends with them. He also got nastier to DH who had tried to start setting rules for SS8. He would tell him he'd rather be with BMs boyfriend to try and hurt DH and break him back down into his guilty daddy will let you do and have anything you command mode. Things were getting better as DH was finally mellowing out because he didn't have the constant emotional abuse from SS8 and BM. He also was getting real love from me while SS8 was trying to hurt him to get his way. It was eye opening for him for a brief time.

But of course BM can't keep a boyfriend because she is so mean and nasty to people. So he left and she pulled her stunts and we were stuck with SS8 for a week. That's all it took to end things between DH and I. Everything reverted back to SS8 trying to wreck everyone's peace and happiness. That evil spawn is just like his BM who DH claims to loathe yet he encourages the behavior in SS8 that he despises. I can't handle it anymore. DH will drink heavily when SS8 is around because he is so miserable, yet he still allows that horrible kid be mean and manipulative to everyone. SS8 can't stand to let DH even say hello to me because he wants To be DHs whole world so he can control him completely. SS8 constantly screams for his dad to do this or that and whines and throws tantrums and cries until he gets his way. Sunday night they kept me up all night as SS8 couldn't stand that his father was trying to go to bed so he kept turning the hall light on and off and crying daddy so SS8 would go sleep with him. I had to work on Monday and I have a demanding job. I told DH this had to stop and he yelled at me and slammed our bedroom door into the wall.

So I told DH either start enforcing consequences when SS8 refuses to listen or move out. So he said I was kicking him out and left me pregnant with his baby. Because you see DH would rather be with a mini version of his terrible ex who treats him like dirt devoid of love and compassion than with me who loves him.

I told him this and told him he was acting just like BMs own father who he says is at the root of her problems. Lol but he can't see the similarities?! OK?! So he picked up their stuff and coldly walked out on me and still claims I kicked him out. Wow..... SS8 is back with BM and I don't know where DH is.