Hello there, I am looking for some perspective regarding summer visitation schedules --
So my situation is that I have an elementary-age SD who lives with us on the weekends (weekdays at her mom’s) currently. Long story short, it’s been a bit of an emotional roller coaster these past few years that I have been in her life. Overall, she is not a bad kid or anything. But when she is over, my stress level shoots up and often get in petty arguments with my husband. Most of my negative feelings likely stem from jealousy/resentment that I am currently trying to work through with therapy.
In any case, we will be moving to another state due to work issues and our visitation schedule will be changing to where we will have her during the summers (2.5 - 3 months at a time) instead. I wanted to get some perspective on how that’s like for those of you stepmoms who experience a similar visitation schedule. I predict my day-to-day will be a lot less stressful during the 9 months of the year when she’s with her mom, but how is like having your stepchild live with you for the entire summer? And how does that compare to weekend visitation schedules, for those of you who have experienced both?
Obviously, I’m looking for input from stepmoms who have had more or less of an emotionally complicated relationship with their stepchild(ren). I’m sure this wouldn’t even be an issue if I felt differently about her living with us.
Thanks in advance!