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Someoneelse's picture

After dinner, me and DH were watching TV, and SD and into the kitchen, she came out and asked DH if he could help peel an cutie/halo orange since her hands were too wet from washing black berries. I don't mind if anyone is hungry, they are allowed to go grab snacks, and it sounds like she's making healthy choices. But, even after DH and i decided to go to bed, SD was still in there... i thought nothing of it really, she's a strange child maybe she was juston her phone or something, i try to stay out of any of it. I get up in the morning, my air fryer is dirty, there's a spoon with peanut butter smeared in the sink (like she licked it but didn't bother to clean it), almost a whole stick of butter is gone (i just pulled out butter the night before so it will be soft by morning, there's about 1/2 tbsp left)...

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Nobody is up yet, but who wants dibs on SD denying any of it, and DH blaming DD18(for some reason she's the one everyone likes to blame) ?

tog redux's picture

Well, she's not really sneaking if you guys have no rules around snacks, but she certainly is leaving a mess for someone else to clean up. I vote for your DH doing it. 

Someoneelse's picture

You're right, it's not really sneak eating, but it's just really weird.  It's like she goes out of her way to "prove"she's eating healthy, when i could REALLY care less... but dang, almost a whole stick of butter? What did she do with almost a whole stick of butter?  

Someoneelse's picture

I guess the right word would have been SNEAKILY eating? Like why would a 17yo worth no disabilities need help pealing a cutie/halo orange? She did it to put on a "look at me in eating healthy" show... but then this? Like i could care less if she made a whole second dinner... but why put on a show like that?  To be sneaky... it's weird.  That was my point.  But if i bring up that she used up all my butter i set out to soften by morning and the kitchen was left in disarray, she's going to deny the whole thing.  That was my second point. 

tog redux's picture

Gotcha. Still seems good to make DH clean it up and ignore her attention-seeking behavior. 

Someoneelse's picture

I agree! Thanks, and i get where you were coming from. I don't want to restrict food and create an unhealthy relationship with food, so she not REALLY sneaking food, but she's being sneaky about it, so i get that maybe my wording was incorrect/confusing.

Rags's picture

They put a quick end to the sneaky lying bullshit.

"Soooo. You didn't do it?  Really? Isn't this a clip of you doing what you just claimed not to have done?"

caninelover's picture

Sounds like a binge to be honest.  If it keeps happening she may need to be evaluated for an eating disorder.  A whole stick of butter is not normal.

And yes DH should clean it up.

Someoneelse's picture

BM Refuses to get her tested for anything.  DH has told BM SEVERAL times he thinks she needs to be psychologically evaluated. 

Someoneelse's picture

I also am wondering a while sick of butter in 1 sitting? I'm thinking did she eat it like a candy bar? Like wth? What did she do with it? 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

As a recovering bulimic, I agree with caninelover. This definitely sounds like binge eating. Which begs the question: Is she purging?

tog redux's picture

I was wondering that, too - except that binge eaters usually hide the evidence of their binging, in my experience.

Someoneelse's picture

She's definitely not purging, she will eat all day long and eat enormous amounts of sugary food. She ate an ENTIRE birthday cake meant for her brother once, she ate half a dozen cupcakes another time after one of my DD's birthday (it was what was leftover.) I was going to serve it as desert after dinner, just to get it out of the house, but i guess sd took care of it for us. 

tog redux's picture

Is she overweight? If not, she might be purging. People with eating disorders get very good at hiding it. 

caninelover's picture

So she's a junk food addict.  Many teenagers are but it is really unhealthy.  If you can't get her evaluated you may want to implement a house rule of no eating after 8 or 9 pm.  Even a teenager should be able to make it through the night without raiding the fridge.

CallMeCrazy's picture

What on Earth does one eat that includes butter, peanut butter, and an air fryer? My mind is boggled.

I don't think there was any sneaky component here as she was in the kitchen while you were downstairs. But it does sound like maybe she's binging? Why not ask what she made? Is it possible that she simply threw away the butter because it was left out all night? (Isn't it bad to do that? I would have tossed it...)

caninelover's picture

Air fried peanut butter  with blackberries and oranges.  I don't think I'd be asking for that recipe.

Butter (because of its high fat content) can be left on the counter.  In many countries they don't bother refrigerating butter at all.  This assumes you'll consume it within a few days and not leave it out for months.

 

Cover1W's picture

Maybe she was trying to make deep fried peanut butter??

I know a guy who used to put butter with peanut butter. And butter on top of cookies like frosting. I couldn't believe it. He died of a massive heart attack.

And butter is ok to leave out in cool climates. There's even special butter containers! Vive la France! We put our in fridge only when it's warmer and melts at room temp.

Someoneelse's picture

That's so scary! This girl scared me the way she eats, she's like "I'm going to make tomato soup", sounds healthy, but then uses Campbell's tomato soup, adds a thing of heavy cream, dumps an INSANE amount of parmesan cheese in it (think almost equal amounts cheese as there is soup), and then eats it with a greasy grilled cheese sandwich (probably a while sick of butter went into making this sandwich). *shok*

caninelover's picture

Was any flour/sugar missing?  Maybe she was trying to make peanut butter cookies?  And cleaned up most of it but just not the air fryer or the sink?  This is quite the mystery LOL.

Someoneelse's picture

Yea, it's softened by morning and i can make toast with creamy butter (easy to spread)  for everyone for breakfast and what not throughout the day.   It's the easiest way to butter bread and not tear it to shreds *biggrin*

caninelover's picture

We do keep ours in the fridge but we don't consume much butter, except occasionally in cooking and baking.  If I'm planning to bake something the next day, I'll also pull butter out of the fridge to let it soften overnight but otherwise we keep some in the fridge and actually freeze some (since we eat so little of it - except at Thanksgiving of course!).

Someoneelse's picture

Exactly, i pulled it out knowing i was going to make breakfast for everyone and was going to use it that day! I usually keep it in the fridge unless i plan on using some. That was why i was aggrivated about that, not incredibly, as i was awake early enough to pull more out.  But it was the principle of it, like i specifically had plans for THAT butter, and her she is, doing god knows what with it... the whole stick (minus 1/2 tbsp)